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Damn man that’s cold of her. It’s the worst when they just ignore you and don’t give you any sort of response. Maybe by playing it cool for awhile she may start to miss you. But all you can do now is sit and wait and it’s awful.
Hey everyone just wanted to express that I had a positive day for once! Went to the gym, hung out with friends, did well on a test, got some groceries, and actually ate normally today! Hope everyone else had a good day, too. Listen to Knee Deep by Zac Brown Band if you’re feeling down, it always lifts me up!
im glad you had a good day ryan! its all about taking small steps and it gets easier in time. you’ll be just fin sand you and your ex will figure out what is the right thing to do in the end. hang in there!
You’re a gorgeous girl on the inside and outside!! Your ex is missing out!! I’m sorry to hear you’ve been feeling worse recently. I think if you stick to NC now, you will feel a lot better once you get over this difficult bit you’re having right now!
Okay so me…
I’m in his country, in a hotel. I’ll likely be surprising him tomorrow night by showing up on his doorstep, after having agreed to talk on the phone with him (to make sure he’s there on his own). I’ve got all sorts of feelings mixed together, right now I’m feeling quite angry and worried about getting rejected further/feeling humiliated.
Time will tell! I’m a bit of a mess right now, but hopefully I’ll keep my cool tomorrow.x
aphrodite, thanks for the kind words! I’m feeling a bit better today. happy i held strong. so eager to talk to him again though! about 7 weeks till ill expect him to make contact again…
and wow!!! have you spoken to him at all? does he have any idea? i can’t even imagine how anxious you must be! i hope tomorrow goes well for you. i am really thinking of you and crossing my fingers for you. please keep me posted!!
Best of luck Aphrodite! I hope it goes well for you. You will be in my thoughts and I also will have my fingers crossed!
In wish I had half the strength you, belle, and Atea have shown during these months.
Thank you for the support @atea1234 and @mike2014!! Will definitely be needing those crossed fingers!
atea i’m glad you’re feeling a bit better and I’m proud of you! stay strong! You’re doing so well!
He has no idea I’m here. But I did send him an email today (a response to his response) which he said he would read tomorrow, as he has this weekend off to himself (good to know and what good timing!). I’ve had my hair dyed, lash extensions and will be wearing a red dress. In other words, I’m going all in – in T-minus 22 hours!mike don’t be so hard on yourself, I think you’ve shown a lot of strength for sure and no doubt it’s difficult with your ex sending out so many mixed signals, like not reading the letter. I really don’t quite get her – the only thing that would make sense to me is that she loves you but doesn’t feel up to par for the time being due to her own issues, she may not feel she’s good enough for you and doesn’t want to share everything so she would rather hide away from you.
I’m nervous but I’m hoping my nerves will be tired out by tomorrow night. I’ll keep you guys posted! Now how am I gonna manage to sleep tonight…:S x
aphrodite, im excited for you! i can’t wait to hear about his reaction. when is the last time you’ve seen him?! i hope you can sleep well! don’t act nervous when you see him – just be confident. I’m sure hw will be shocked to see you!
Yea like Atea said be confident! You will do just fine. I’m sure you know exactly what you are going to say too. Once again, best of luck!
Sleep tight (hopefully)
I’m waiting for an update myself!
I know she arrived and he was happy to see her but he didn’t want her to sit next to him and was awkward. I don’t know if she’s not updated me because it too late to text or if it’s another reason like staying over!?? The mind is wondering!!
Im sure we will find out today!!
thanks for the update – I’m glad he was happy to see her! keep us posted if you hear anything new!!
Okay here we go!
So everything went according to plan. I was all dressed up, and wearing my old perfume that he associates with our ‘good times’. We had agreed to talk on the phone, and he suspected nothing. Showed up at his doorstep. Knocked once (no answer). Then again, and he opened the door, didn’t say anything just stared at me in shock! I asked if I could come in and we went and sat down in his living room. He kinda looked at me in horror, and asked why I was there. I said because I wanted to talk, to which he replied “you know you have a phone for that” (lol). it took him around two hours to warm to the fact that I was there. Those hours were filled with awkward silences, he looked exhausted from work and shock, and I was genuinely considering leaving. I said to him that I could come back another time, but he said (indirectly) that I had already disturbed his equilibrium so I may as well stay. We started listening to music to break the ice, and he began warming to me being there. First we discussed trivial things but then went on to discuss my email and our relationship. And it was GREAT! We were both agreeing on everything, apologising to each other for what we had done wrong and giving each other hugs. I hope that I connected with him emotionally!
I asked him whether he was seeing anyone at the current time, to which he replied that he hasn’t seen anyone at all and has just been taking time to himself (phew). He then wanted me to give him all the details of what’s happened with me and other guys. He told me to pretend he was my best friend and just spill all the details, completely unfiltered. He was acting totally cool about it, and I really don’t understand this behaviour that well. Mike?
The hours passed by, and we ended up sleeping together, and vaguely discussed that it wouldn’t change anything. I really don’t know if sleeping with him was a good idea or not (as I’m worried he respects me less, or whether I should have left a build up and focused solely on the emotional aspects). Anyway, it happened, and I can’t take it back! I was wondering if I should take a taxi home, but he told me I was fine to stay there for the night. We then went to sleep, and woke up at the same time this morning. He has a lot of practical things to do today, so I just took off without breakfast or anything. He also said that it would be best if I left, because he’d be distracted from getting done what he needs to get done today – and he seemed a little upset that he didn’t get as much sleep as he had planned.
So as it stands I have no idea where we stand, but I take it nothing has changed other than the fact that we are on good terms now. I don’t know how I feel! I’m happy we’re on good terms but I’m just very unsure about the sleeping together part, and it was awkward leaving this morning. I don’t know what the plan is going forward, I don’t know anything at all, but I’ll be staying in my hotel the next few days anyway, and hopefully he will reach out about seeing me again. Thoughts on this?
Hope you’re all doing well!!
aphrodite, sounds like it went well overall! I’m sure he must have been completely shocked to see you there which might explain the awkwardness at the beginning – he was unprepared! sounds like you connected with him emotionally and its great he was open to discussing things.
i don’t think sleeping with him will change anything (for better or worse). after 10 years together i feel like it was bound to happen after an emotional conversation. i don’t think this will change his opinion of you or the relationship or future at all. don’t stress about it! i think it was very natural for that to happen.
I’m happy youre on good terms and i have no idea where it sounds like the relationship stands right now! I’m confused for you. I’m not surprised it was awkward this morning. i feel like its just na uncomfortable situation. i don’t think that changes anything either. i hope he reaches out to see you again so you can at least hear his thoughts about where you stand and what he thinks will happen moving forward. give him some time to process everything! im sure he definitely is having a lot of mixed emotions at the moment!
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