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Tonight’s the only night I’m not busy that’s maybe why I feel this way. There’s a chance I may bump into her at the weekend as our groups all drink I’m similar places. I don’t want to stay in as it’s my teams big night out. Perhaps staying off the booze will help.
Whenever you see her accidentally,act like you have never been in a relationship with her.be cool,avoid too much or any eye contact.just say hey,or anything like that.
If she tries to start a conversation with you,keep it really short and don’t talk about anything too personal.As long as you don’t act needy,you don’t talk about the breakup,getting back together,her dating life,anything intimate…. its ok.but the conversation should be really short like less than 4,5 minutes.
You should act like friends.don’t be overly friendly.Adam23m, I know it is hard. I just messed up after 5 days NC and made things worse. You will regret it if you slip up. Follow the plan, stay busy, occupy your mind otherswise. There is great advice on this site from a.z and many other people. \
Good Luck!Cheers, I will get to the end of nc, also be strong your self :), If I get down I use the ‘ she’s thinking of me ‘ technique, it helps, doesn’t help that I’d bought a engagement ring ha ha.
Dreams are such a pain, every night she’s in them and it’s all good, I wake up feeling great for about 5 seconds then reality hits ha ha. So annoying.
Was out with my friends last night and just found myself looking at the door all night long, nc is going well so far, just need to keep my motivation up and leave her alone, possible the hardest thing I’ve had to do.
Hei Adam
I just stummbeled upon your texts and I know the feeling you have about looking at the door and NC gets “easier” after some weeks… The dreaming and the FB “stalking” is the hard part 🙁
What is your “she thinks of me” technique?
Be strong
If you get the emails it explains in there, if our relationship ment anything she will be thinking of me. So when I’m down that’s what I think.
It gets better over time guys, keep yourself free from worrying. The more you think about what your exes are doing, the more assumptions you make. Whether those assumptions are true or not, there’s nothing you can do about it and it only makes you feel worse. If you are happy, your happiness will show and you will attract what you want.
One week no contact , getting easier, even got slightly drunk last night and didn’t even think about contacting her :).
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