Is this a good idea?

@Malinda I think they are all good at acting like they don’t care! It’s their way of dealing with it. I remember the first few days after I kept saying to my ex “how can you be so ok about this?” and his reply was simply “I don’t know what you want me to say to that but I am”. Now I feel more ok, and I think he is feeling less ok.

Just give it some time, really try and use the time to sort your own head out, remember, you are number one

@Malinda, the emotions you are feeling right now are because it has only been a little while since you broke up. Have faith in time healing…. I know it SO annoying to hear that, but honestly, it is the best thing for you. You will get clarity, you will see what went wrong. But most importantly you can start to improve yourself. I don’t mean physically, but mentally. Do whatever you can to make yourself feel better. I have bad days, Only the other day I had a really bad day. But I thought about things clearly, I remembered why I was doing this and I feel better again. I have forgiven myself, and that’s truly brilliant to do!

I don’t know if there is any chance there, he won’t act on anything he feels. BUT whatever happens, happens (or doesn’t happen lol) I know I would of tried my best.

@Malinda that feeling of losing him is something we are all going through, so everyone can relate to that. It’s just having faith that the right thing will happen at the right time. That’s how I try to see it anyway. I would love nothing more than my ex to ring me and say I want you back, but the likelihood of that happening is very slim. So I just have to carry on doing what I am doing, improving myself, making myself get out and do things. The 30 days NC is really only effective if you actually do something within that time to help yourself. If you do it and don’t try to help yourself, then if it came to it, there would be no difference in you whatsoever and it would be pointless. You say you said things that are irreversible, however the other point of the NC is that it gives your ex time to forget the negativities that surround you. this is why time is so important in this horrible game.

@Malinda yes the phone call was good. But he is still thinking the same things, he still wants to be broken up. I have to respect his decision and time. We were talking quite a lot after he sent his letter back to me, and it was really nice, but it was making me miss him more because I couldn’t see him. So I am back on NC again. I am going to leave it for a couple of weeks and then message him and ask if he wants to meet up. He hasn’t contacted me yet, but if he does I will be polite and keep the messages to a minimum. My mum has also messaged him lol. He wanted to message my mum but didn’t because he thought she wouldn’t like him anymore, and asked that I pass on a message, which I did and she messaged him last night. I don’t know if he has read it or replied to her!