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Day 12 of NC. Is it a good idea if I deactivate my fb acc? I keep checking his fb and stuff and I cant help not doing it so
Ya or you could simply block him! I did that and it helped me 🙂 it also makes them curious
If its not too much to ask can you check out my post? https://ebpforums.com/boards/topic/is-it-ever-really-over/
I changed my mind that I’m not deactivating my fb acc, it will be better remaining indifferent I guess. Today is day day 13 of NC…nothing I got 🙁
If u still stalking thats mean u still needy … Why u doing NC ?
uaing NC means u want to get ur self back before anything coz u have lost power .. After 1 month or few weeks whenever u feel better and think more wide about the stration then this is what u need
Hi I’m on day 30 and it does get easier I was a mess to start but now ive settled down, yes I still think about her but I’m living my life. Hang in there it will get easier
My ex deleted me off facebook after a week of being broken up. It was the best thing he could of done because I was obsessively checking his facebook and coming up with explanations for things he was putting on there. since he has deleted me, I have no idea what is going on and for me, that’s better. I don’t have to sit here and second guess anything.
I agree the NC is to make yourself better, it isn’t for your exes benefit, it is for yours. Use this time to grieve, get strength back and make yourself better. As Gingerone said, at first you are mess, but after a while it does get better.
@JeanValins @Gingerone @KD1988 Thank you for your comments, I appreciate them.
I thought deactivating my acc will be good for myself as I cant stop myself keep checking his page but then I’ve decided to remain active because if I deactivate he will think its because of him and it would seen as weak thats how.He is leaving the country in a few days maybe he already did I don’t know, there is no hope in fact cuz he doesn’t want to commit, doesn’t think about marriage at all. He told me if I ever change my mind then go alongwith him, I said I will not change my mind for sure, this was when we talked last time 13 days ago. I just cant believe hes going away just like that easy and leaving me behind as I have meant nothing to him. He has mentioned about that maybe some self sacrifice should be made but he did not do anything at all, so selfishly going away.
Its just so sad to let it go. I let him ruin my life but nothing changed in his life, hes just going with his own plans so selfishly and all his sweet words were in fact just lies and for running around.
I have to do a new start for myself I guess..sigh**that’s a tough one because he is probably hurting too that you won’t go with him? I appreciate that you want commitment from him like marriage, but you can’t force that on someone. And a commitment is him asking you to go with him? That’s how I would see it anyway.
If you deleted him off facebook, that would not make you appear weak. If you are doing things to better yourself, this can’t be seen as a weakness. If he said anything about it then you would just simply tell him that you need some space and time.
@KD1988 No I dont think hes hurting that much because he asked me to go alongwith him just like that just for saying it because he knows that I wouldnt go there just like that I dont have a job I got nothing there and I would deal with the visa procedures and all. The job is for about 8 months or something then there is a possibility to come back here together he said but I’m sure he knew I wouldnt go just like that, also he knows my intention is marrying him and he almost yelled at me he doesnt want to get marry now but it doesnt mean he doesnt love me.
I didnt think about deleting him from my fb, I just wanted to deactivate my acc cuz I’m weak and I keep on checking his page, couple of days ago his friends from work tagged him that they arranged a dinner for him since hes leaving the country and he seems all chill and cool, keep adding new people.It was kind of ultimatum, if you marry me then I will come alongwith you but I know and aware of that you dont want to, so I understand that and we should go on our own ways and he was kinda upset but quickly accepted to go on our own ways, he seemed cool so that drove me crazy and I started talking nonsense and said some bad words but then told him I’m sorry and all I said was out of anger and I was exteremely sad thats why… this was also our last talk over the phn. @KD1988
I told him not to call me ever again after sometime, told him I’m so weak and so very upset now but it shall pass so don’t ever try to contact me after sometimes pass and I feel better. I will not accept you with anyway you come up with so dont ever think of calling and he told me not to condition myself over it. So I gave him the message that I will not be there waiting for him whenever he decide to return and makes up his mind about things, so what if not..
@Malinda he has put up a defence barrier because he is hurt. That is why he is acting cool and not hurt. Ultimatums are never good lol. But I understand why you did it.
Yes I think you should just delete him off there. I still look at my exes page every now and then but can only see if he has changed his profile pic. I can’t drive myself mad anymore looking at it. It does help.@KD1988 He is damn good at acting so cool when hurt, you can never really tell if hes hurt… sometimes I’m dreaming about getting lost somewhere far from everybody for a month and when this feeling passed then I appear… He has all the attention of the girls around him its unbearable :S !
I will check your story now @KD1988
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