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Take the high road my friend. Ignore her…
There is clearly a lot of feelings there, and she is clearly hurting. And yes: it is very immature of her.
I would have loved for my ex to show this kind of emotions when we broke up.I’m losing hope because she looks so happy and it just like bothers me. I don’t think she’s ever coming back honestly and everyone even says it.
Honestly I do not want to come off as rude to your friends but they are not experts on dating and relationships. Not saying that I am by any means but I am not emotionally or personally involved in this situation and so I can be a bit more objective. If she did not have any interest, feelings or desire to date you she would not care about you at all, as in she would not have any issue talking to you or not talking to you she would not display any emotion towards you one way or another. Apathy is the opposite of love and anger shows she still has some feelings for you. I agree with ignoring the immature actions and being the better person, if you engage right now then her and more accurately her gossipy sounding friends will have more ammo to annoy you with and create more drama. Be the trend setter and rise above the drama, she will respect you for being the mature one. I know it isn’t easy but take it from me the last girl I dated (not the ex I still like) was the biggest drama queen I have ever known and now that I walked away and refused to buy into it suddenly she wants to talk and I feel a lot better about myself. It is definitely the better option to refuse to get drawn into immature fighting and gossip.
I also find out that she’s gossiping because while we dated I was talking to her ex best friend inappropriatly since I needed attention just that one night. Afterwards, my ex found out and we got into a huge fight and i cried and told her to forgive me which she did. 2 months past and we were still together and broke up with me. Now she’s holding that against me when she forgave me and I stopped doing that to her. also, there one a time in our relationship where we had a big big fight that it involved me putting hands on her throat wanting to kill her but I didn’t hit her. I apologized to her and she forgive me and I even went to church , since I’m catholic, to confess it. She’s also holding that against me and telling people I hit her when I didnt. So many things that are in my mind that’s making me think she’s never going to talk to me because of what I’ve done. She’s done many more things aswell but now I feel like she’ll get revenge on me by having this new guy and do everything we did to him, including sexual things which bothers me the most when I think of it.
She is at the honeymoon stage of her new relationship. Everthing is going to look so perfect and happy for the next 2-3 months. Dont chase her or anything, you cannot compete with the honeymoon stage. Let it die on its own.
I cant guarantee you will get her back. I can only tell you that this is a very normal pattern, and your reactions are also very normal.
You are doing great by staying in NC and not showing her that this bothers you.Remember: it is when you say nothing at all, that you make the loudest voice
Especially in my situation there’s still a chance? After 2-3 months I can conclude she’s serious?
Not especially your situration. I am saying your situration is normal, and you have as big a chance as anyone else. Dont let her rebound and new-found happieness fool you.
After 2-3 months her “high” will wear of, and the happieness will start to fade.
I know you are hurting right now. Boy do I remember the first 3 months of my break up. It is an awefull time.
The best you can do is stick to NC and ignore… Not only is it the best strategy to win a person back, but it is also the most healthy for you. Sitting around wondering about her every action, every day, can drive you insane…So basically she will also forget about the whole me talking to her best friend situation? Remind you that she hated her bestfriend for doing that with me but now all of a sudden there friends since she told her what happen between us.
It is explained very well in the articles on this site. No Contact to make them forget the negatives and remember the possitives.
Dont worry about her, worry about yourself.
Keep NC, work on yourself. Improve and become a better, happier person. One that woman will love to be with.Still the same. Everyday passes by and I haven’t heard a single word from her and she’s still being happy with this new guy. It’s been a month and a half of no contact.
Stay strong and keep NC until you are ready to reestablish contact. I tried to be friends with my ex and honestly it screwed it up more than anything else. I helped her get over me and move on to a new guy and now she has no desire to talk to me anymore. Learn from my mistake and do not get used by your ex. If she cares about you then sooner or later she will try to contact you and then you will be ready to try again.
I have a hard time knowing the fact that literally a week after she’s with one guy and now she’s talking to another guy ? I was very very very ill that I was send to the hosptial and she knew about it. Yet she never told me if I was ok. Nothing. Like where I’m I in this? Does she not know that what she’s doing is wrong? She’s with a lot of guys in school and I have to see it everyday.
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