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@LAbound what do you mean, what sort of business im starting?
Happy New Year Everyone!!
When you think about it this whole thing is simple.
Don’t contact them.
Work on yourself
Move forwardIf they chose not to be with us, we will still live and our lives will be better regardless 🙂
@confused_girl It is for nobody else to judge whether you have been dirrrty or not, including your Ex boyfriend.
You are currently a young, free and perhaps beautiful (I do not know) young lady with a world of options open up to you.
You do not have to explain yourself to anybody as long as you feel that you are doing what is best for yourself.
Lol, it wasn’t anything dirty. My ex was on my mind the whole night, specially when he snapchatted me at 4 in the morning telling me he missed me lol. My ex knows about my past and knows I’m not proud of it one bit. He brought it one time and I got very pissed off at him and he learned not to bring up the past again, I never asked about his so, I think it’s fair
@Sparky, what’s your opinion on my situation and what do you think I should do?
I’m doing NC again but for 90 days :/, I just want opinions
@confused_girl Did you ever tell us how old your Ex is?
Do you think that he is at an age or frame of mind where he still wants to explore? From your description he appears to be a bit of a @confused_boy at the moment, pardon the pun.
I think that you certainly need some time to regain a balanced frame of mind yourself. At least 30 days but don’t feel the need to go 90 days or more if it is unnecessary. You might need to explain to your Ex that for your own health you need some time and space right now if he continues to message you frequently. You also need to be strong enough to prove to yourself that you can go a month without speaking to him.
If your Ex can give you a months time and space and you can do the same for him then it might be worth opening up the friendship with him again. Start your month from the last day that he messaged you or the last day you messaged him. If he can’t do 4 or 5 weeks without messaging you then perhaps you should go NC until he can?
It seems that he thinks that he can have you without commitment at the moment and that is the main thing that you need to work on if you have any chance of having a proper relationship with him. The best way to do that will be to just be friends with him after NC has finished until you feel comfortable with him again. Don’t forget that any new friendship or relationship with him will be exactly that. The old relationship you had is no more.
He’s 22 and I’m 19, thinking about all this is driving me crazy again. The only thing that is kind of worrying me, is that he isn’t snapchatting daily like he used to
@Sparky, all of this is driving me crazy. WIth all the crap he’s done, I’ve felt sooo close to getting him back and now I feel so far. I didn’t think It would be this hard, I hate it. I’m about to cry again, this is miserable
@confused_girl you really gotta go NC for at least 60 days. Pick up a calendar and tick off the days. Right now your entire happiness is directly tied to whether or not he’s snap chatting you. It should not be that way. Even if you were together. You have to find other sources of happiness in life
I know :/ this is so freaking hard already. I’m just used to him doing it daily, why would he just stop though?
I’ve been trying to get him off my mind, trying to text my friends, xbox, watching my favorite show when I was a kid (because I don’t an updated Dish or any wifi…) maybe I should finish my dream catchers and start selling them on FB
@confused_girl there’s no way of knowing. Unanswered questions are so hard. All you can do is try to make your life happier. Easier said than done I know! Making dream catchers sounds awesome
@Aphrodite, I had about 7 made and now I have to do the webbing again on some, it got messed up. It’s hard to get it right. I’m OCD about my crafts and art so it makes it harder lol
Confused_girl,
I’m learning crocheting! Yes sounds very slippers and hot cocoa but I love the crochet flowers. So I went to this fantastic shop today and they were very helpful. They even have a crochet club on Monday evenings first Monday of the month.
My house will be full of crochet flowers next time my ex comes? I might even advance onto Ebay too!
Keep busy!!
I remember my ex messaged me on fb about something artsy and told me I should go to art school and sell stuff on Etsy. I’m not going to college to get a piece of paper proving I’m skilled in art when you can see all my work that I did in school and 4-H. And most people don’t get jobs associated in that profession. I’d rather not go to college. You make a better living making your own business than searching for one you went to college for. I only know one person who went to college and actually got a job for what they majored in – my sister. She’s a paralegal now. And I’d rather sell on Etsy, you have to give some of your profit to them, and I use my money to buy stuff for my crafts
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