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  • #27919
    AvatarThePhoenix
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    Right on man! I think we are bouncing happiness off of one another. You’re right, it feels fantastic!

    We’ve just got to keep on the path we’re on, sit back, and prop our feet up. 🙂

    #27935
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    I’d just like to say when I first came to this board, nobody even mentioned LOA. I went off for a while and discovered it, learning as much as i can and still learning. Then i came back here and bam! LOA is all over these boards. Off that isn’t proof of how it works, then I don’t know what is.

    Keep feeling those happy vibes guys. It’s really comforting and inspirational to read all your stories 🙂

    #27981
    Avatarpatrick d
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    Good to hear from you relic. I’m just getting into it now as you read already.
    How is LoA going for you?
    I’m having a bad morning pheonix. Feeling Blue. Doubting everything. don’t know why. After her reaching out I should be happy?

    #27988
    AvatarThePhoenix
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    Patrick, you are the master of your emotions. You have the ability to be happy if you choose to be. Let go out the doubt if you can. The human mind does not like doubts and it shakes our sense of self-esteem and security. Sometimes we aren’t at a point where we can test to see if our doubts are valid or not, so it’s best to turn attention elsewhere. I’m not saying to abandon or destroy them, but again turn your attention elsewhere and in fact, try to do a kindness for someone you know (or even don’t know) today. The best way to wash away the unhappy is kindness. Better yet, relax, close your eyes, reach your hands up and thank the universe for all you are grateful for– I found this makes me feel happier almost instantly. 🙂

    I started my morning off a bit rough as I had been drinking more last night and have to work in the next hour or so, but I refuse to let it slow me down. I’m looking forward to my morning coffee now and hanging out with a good friend later tonight.

    Relic, isn’t it fantastic?! 😀 Stick around and we’ll keep the ball rolling.

    #27995
    Avatarpatrick d
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    Thanks for that pheonix. I’ll thank the universe for everything. And I’ll go and do things. And I’ll look at the positives with her. She did text almost saying she missed me. I am in control.
    You are always a great help.
    I’m meeting a good friend later too.
    The day will brighten now. I feel the change already.
    I thank you.

    #27996
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    Just thinking. Could I have been feeding off her today? Is it her that is feeling down because I never replied to 2 personal messages? She might be feeling the pressure and therefore I feel it too?

    Thoughts?

    #28025
    AvatarThePhoenix
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    No problem, hon! That could be the case. I’m definitely glad you’re feeling better.

    I noticed last night when I was drinking that I didn’t have any sort of feeling in terms of connection with my ex. I was a ball of laughter but I guess I may have blacked out at some point. When I woke up this morning I found a spoon taped to my wall with a note saying “You’ll know.” I have no memory of this and I don’t know what the heck I’m supposed to know. Oh the odd things we do haha.

    #28033
    Avatarpatrick d
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    Those moments when one feels nothing are strange. I notice them and wonder why I feel nothing. I almost feel guilty about them.
    Today is still strange. Missing her a lot. I joined a gym there (just signed up) but I can’t rid this empty feeling. This sense of loss. Something is up. Maybe I’m just reading too much into things? I was doubting the texts, thinking they meant nothing. But they must have. “I’d like to talk to you again”. Could be read anyway I suppose.
    But I have such strong feelings that something is going on and I can’t place it.

    What were you thinking with the spoon on the wall? Was it just drinking? Ha. I quit drinking 60 days ago today. I don’t miss it one bit. Best decision I ever made.

    #28037
    AvatarThePhoenix
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    You very well could be reading too much into things. :\ I’m not fond of the feelings like something is going on but can’t place what. They can be troubling.

    It’s not that I didn’t feel anything. I was happy and having a good time, I just felt nothing for her. I’ve found when I see pictures of her it’s almost like I don’t even know the person or remember how she was, sound of her voice, etc. I remember how she used to be, but that was about 4 years ago before she really lost herself in the world.

    Regarding the spoon I have absolutely no clue. I have not been drunk to the point where I cannot remember things… ever really. The worst episode I had with drinking was 6 years ago when I bet a friend I could down a large bottle of vodka before they came back from running an errand. That night did not end well, but I at least remember the majority of what happened. I’m not really that much of a drinker typically, but I’ve been enjoying myself lately.

    Congrats on the quitting! That’s really impressive and I’m proud of you. 😀

    #28181
    Avatarpatrick d
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    How was your day pheonix?

    #28189
    Avatarrelic
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    It’s going great thank you! It’s all the little things that add up that we need to remember. Like that fact I hadn’t seen anyone mentioned LOA until I started learning about it, like how I came across a guy who I’d never heard of before, then he was in a magazine I bought, how im trying to attract an ex back, then all of a sudden all my exes have contacted me. All the little synchronicities, they let you know it’s working.

    Don’t forget, the universe knows what you want. Don’t hold on to hard, and don’t concentrate on the fact you don’t have it. It will come eventually and deep down you KNOW it will, hold on to that, and enjoy your life in the meantime 🙂

    #28191
    Avatarpatrick d
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    Cool. I really want my ex back. It’s hard not to concentrate on that.
    She has text a few times over the last few days. Getting angry then old jokes. Then sharing something big in her life. Then saying she would like to talk to me. Still might be nothing but do you think it’s starting to have effect?
    Funny about the exes. I had a short fling with a girl for a few months years ago. Haven’t seen her in years. She is a friend on Facebook but lives in oz and happy with a man. She liked a pretty daft post of mine today. I found that really strange at the time because she has not liked anything before.
    What do you do? State your goal then work on yourself being happy?

    #28193
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    I think you are reading too much into it. How much no contact have you had ? It’s really important to take this time to focus on yourself. I can’t stress that enough. Take each day as it comes, each morning you wake up treat it as a fresh slate and try to do things that make you feel happy; regardless if it would have an affect on you and the ex. It is the hardest thing to do, but really the most important. We all control our own happiness, and it’s simply not fair to another, or yourself, to make that happiness depend on another person.

    I know it’s hard, trust me, I’ve been there and done that, still doing it infact, but it gets easier with each passing day. You’d be very surprised. You need to stop concentrating all that effort into missing them.

    You need to learn to do something, no matter how trivial, that makes YOU happy just BECAUSE each day.

    I’ll be honest here. At first I tried to do 20 minutes of visualisation each day, as well as separate meditation, remote seduction and countless other techniques. After time, I realised it wasn’t about me and that was the issue. I wasn’t doing anything for ME. Eventually I stopped, and concentrated only on making myself feel better. I still meditated, I still took time out of my day to give thanks and gratitude, but now I did it purely for myself, and for the thanks I felt for slowly feeling more positive each day. It’s all about yourself and your vibration. You can only change yourself, and the way you see and feel about yourself has a massive impact on the world we see around us.

    Remember, thoughts become things!

    #28194
    Avatarpatrick d
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    Thanks for that. 12 days No contact. Although she has contacted. I’ve tried doing things for me but you’re right. I haven’t done enough.
    So basically try to forget about her and focus fully on me? When she texts it’s hard though. Hard to hold back. Hard in general to not think about her and what can be in the future. Hard not to dwell on past mistakes.

    #28198
    AvatarThePhoenix
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    Not so hot, but not horrible. My ex is in a new relationship as of today. I’m of mind it’s a rebound as it’s been less than a month since we broke up.

    But I’m out having fun with a friend, so it’s all good. I’ll read all of the posts later.

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