Tony_Jay

@patricia12 I first uploaded it in reconciliation and my phone did something weird and I thought it didn’t upload at all so I went to NC sorry for that confusion. But I’ve been keeping my distance, however my sister loved my now ex. Before we broke up I bought concert tickets for my ex and sister to go to together. After we broke up and there was no hostility, my sister asked if she could still go to the concert with my ex and I said sure. They’ve been in constant communication and going out together since and my sister frequently asks both of us separately how we feel about trying again.

I didn’t recognize or notice it until one day my ex texts me saying that she doesn’t feel comfortable telling my sister all of our business and I caught a feeling my ex thought I was deliberately sending my sister to talk to her which wasn’t the case. As I tell my sister (who’s younger and doesn’t understand) to relax and to not speak of me to my ex at all so we both have space, she tells me that my ex has been saying how much she does miss our relationship and how good I treated her in the relationship. Which threw my all the way off. Later on down the line, my sister posts a picture of me and the rest of our family during a family gathering and one of her friends who my whole family knows and is much younger than me. Sends something pretty much thirsting over me in a joking way and my sister posts that without any intent to offend anyone.

I get a text later that day from my ex saying she still has feelings that are not unresolved for me so she doesn’t want to see any posts regarding someone crushing on me all after she posts a snap of her and some guy extremely close. I continuously tried to give her space by respectfully telling my sister she has to cut ties with my ex, blocked her on all social media, blocked her from my phone, etc… then the surgeries took place and she had found a way to make sure she sent get well gifts.

My ex sugar coats a lot for people she cares about and she did with me. At the time of our relationship we had fun within our budgets (We were broke college students lol). So at times some dates weren’t as lavish as others, and some trips weren’t as big as others. None the less we both enjoyed each other but I began to think she wasn’t happy with what I was doing but she insisted she was but I thought she was sugar coating. Ultimately I tried way to hard because I lost confidence in myself and her and she told me I needed to get back to my happy ways.

Since then I have improved substantially, mentally I do believe that she is not the materialistic type. Or the type to feel down if all dates aren’t at 5 star hotels and top of the line 5 star restaurants. With that being said I know if we were to be back together she’s happy with what I can give.

Lastly (I know this is long sorry), we rarely text now. It’s literally the same “hey how you doing, how’s work been, what’s new, oh okay that’s cool, hit me up if you need anything bye” conversation every 2/3 weeks. The last time we really communicated was about 2 months ago and that was arguing and her telling me she knows we’re both romantically in love with each other but it’s not right for us right now. Ever since it’s been horrible conversation, she recently sent back tickets to a concert that we had planned to go to together as friends out of nowhere. I just don’t know at this point