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Hi @Bolond, I am also a bit confused about some of the details, but I wonder if you ever actually apologised for walking in on her? If she has anger or issues around boundaries, she may think you mis-used the key she had given you. Maybe she expected you only to use it at specific times, i.e. when picking up or dropping off your son, rather than to “surprise” them. Perhaps she is expecting an apology for this?

It seems like, following the meeting at the preschool, it would be healthy for you to reduce contact to only directly discussing your son for a time. Give you both a chance to clear your heads, stop obsessing about what everything means? Show her you can respect that you are not in a relationship together and, once you have had some space, you could see if she is interested in counselling, as Patricia suggested?