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She left me 16 months ago. Since then she has been “weird”. Giving me presents,at the begining she slept naked in my bed,i cuddled her and she liked it,kissed her, touched her and she liked it. When i tried to **** her she did not let me. Time went on and we hang out a lot,slept togheter,she made dinners,wine and movienight,restaurangs,picknics and so on. She wanted me to stay the night. No sex.
I got my hopes on. Our kid turned 1,5 years old so i went to her place for a surprise. Ive surprised her often with the kid AND she gave me a key to her flat for over a year ago.
I went in. Caught her ****ing another man.
Of course she did nothing wrong. She is single BUT WHY acting the way she did towards me???I blocked her on fb and now we are leaving and fetching the kid at preschool. No more coffe,sleepovers,dinners,wine,hangning out etc.
I got played but still sad and we have a kid togheter….And unfortunatly i love her.
She is very Mad at me and i dnt understand why? She want us to talk with social services about our cooperation and we are going to do that. I told her i loved her and she replied “thats something we have to talk about with at our meeting about cooperation with social services” She did not say yes,she did not say no. What does she want!!??@Bolond How long were you together? What were the reasons she left you?
Is the social service appointment to define parental visits or what??
Would she consider couples counseling?
Right now, it seems she wants to be free of commitment to you, but it’s very sad because a child is involved and the best thing would be for the child to have two loving parents in a stable relationship together..
Four years. She left because she accused me of cheating. I did NOT CHEAT!!! She has no proof because it do not exist. A few weeks later she said i “tried to cheat” (??)
Social services are for because she had a complain about the kid. Preschool has also made a complain against har.We dnt talk after me seeing har fucking another man. She is very Mad and i dnt understand why. I really dnt know What are wants with me…
@Bolond Ask her if she’s willing to attend couples counseling to preserve the family. Perhaps the issues you had/have with each other could be resolved..
Is your 1 1/2 year old child a boy or a girl? What were the social service and preschool complaints against your ex?
Its a boy. The complaints are no boundyries(spelling?) its about sex…
Preschool are about very low attendence,both remarks are about her…Toonight i asked her if the Thinks we are done. She said yes. I asked her WHY? No reply…why no reply???
@Bolond I don’t understand. Is she accused of sexually molesting your son? Is she accused of not sending him to preschool often enough? I don’t think there are any requirements to send a child to preschool as compared to regular grade school with is mandatory..
She thinks you cheated, right? But there are probably other reasons she broke up with you, but doesn’t want to discuss it..
If you ask her if she’s willing to attend couples counseling, it will show you’re serious about working through the issues you two had in the relationship..
Yes she is under investigation about molesting our child but last meeting with social services they said they did not hear anything alarming about that…
I asked her about us and she wrote its a NO. Of course i asked her WHY but no answer about that. Its very important to me to know WHY….
Is the playing with me and wants the power over me??@Bolond Yes, I understand you asked her if she was done and she said yes. But no answer as to why..
Don’t think of her actions as playing you and wanting power over you. Think of it as no interest in reuniting (for her own reasons).
This is the last time I will mention this: You could ask her if she is willing to attend “couples counseling” .. which will show you’re interested in working through the issues and preserving your family unit! If she says no to counseling, that means she’s not interested in reconciliation at this time, but at least she will know you’re serious in trying to reunite as a family AND work through the issues which will reveal the reasons why she broke up with you..
She has a hard time. Its because of me that the complaint and investigation by social services are going on. I went to get some advice at social services about our kid. They thought it was so serious so they made a complaint. So it Thanks to me the complaint was done. Preschool complaint i have nothing to do with but it tells me she dnt manage taking care of our kid Good enough.
So she is hurt and me trying to want answers about us is of Course very annoying to her right now. In her mind i guess she dnt understand,first me seeing her in bed with a man. I blocked her and wanted no contact. Then the complaint and me wanting answers about us. Then the preschool complaint and me still wanting answers about us. Of course she is confused and can not give answers…
Me asking “are we done?
We need to talk.”
Har reply “Yes,we need to talk about our kid”Thats a typical answer from her right now.
@Bolond Don’t pressure her about answers as to why..
Okay, good luck with everything.
Hi @Bolond, I am also a bit confused about some of the details, but I wonder if you ever actually apologised for walking in on her? If she has anger or issues around boundaries, she may think you mis-used the key she had given you. Maybe she expected you only to use it at specific times, i.e. when picking up or dropping off your son, rather than to “surprise” them. Perhaps she is expecting an apology for this?
It seems like, following the meeting at the preschool, it would be healthy for you to reduce contact to only directly discussing your son for a time. Give you both a chance to clear your heads, stop obsessing about what everything means? Show her you can respect that you are not in a relationship together and, once you have had some space, you could see if she is interested in counselling, as Patricia suggested?
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