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@mr_the_ex hello and thank you very much for your answer!!! The strange is that when I deal with the fact that he is not gonna tell me the reason or to be again together, it passed 17 days without contact, and he started to do all that things, with the “like’ and then I wished him and he answered me as is aid above.
I had in my mind to wish him no matter if he had answered me for the reason…I am polite and this is how I am gonna be with him, I just wished him and he did what i wrote.
So ti was normal to think what is going on here, because all that months he is cold, and when I am not writing him he is doing all that with “likes”…and as you said he should know better why he is doing this.
He did it also in the first no contact period, 3 weeks no conatct, then I posted, then he did likes…
It shows me that he is here,.it is likes to make me think about him with his “likes’ on social media…and all of this happened when I try to move on..
yes, when someone is flirting me I feel very beautifull (who doesn’t feel ?hahaha) but whenmy ex do all that things, makes me to think about him, and really my life is better after the hell which I was after the break up…
Maybe he he is alone and he feels my absent in his life, who knows, but by writing me “my…..” he knew that I am going to think about our love because he already knows how I feel for him, it passed 4-5 months after break up and still i was trying for us, so he knows how I feel…and he prefers to do all that things except to talk to me…Maybe he thinks that ok it passed days from her last message so i will friendly with the “sky”, maybe he thinks that I found someone else, and he wanted to show me that I am here…
Whatever is the reason of his last actions, he knows better, and he knows that I am not gonna be here for ever for him…
Because if he wanted to talk to me, he should had tell how are you and to start talking…he didn’t…
Of course me I didn’t respond to him, I am not going to do it…I thought of no contact again, but I started to do it before 15 days, the wish message was because he has name day, and as I see in the page here, you can write him a wish message and really I wished him not for chasing him or to show him that I exist, I did it because I am person and it is normal to wish..I didn’t expected answer…or I was expecting just “thank you’ because he is more cold than the weather all that months….
To say the truth If he wants something with me, he must start talking me because if I talk to him again probably he will be again cold and no answer…
All his actions makes me to think that maybe he still thinking of me, but there is something which keeps him back and does not make him to do a step…or he is doing this just for having me as a “window” whenever he wants to come back if he will not find someone else….
Me I am trying to move on, I almost did it and then he shows me that he exists in my life….
Really I try to do whatever I love, but he is in my mind but I am not in the way i was when I came here in the page, I feel better…it would be great if he wanted to be togetehr again, because I have feelings for him , but it seems that he just want to do ‘like” so the best for me,….is to move on with my own life..
If he really loves me and wants to be together but for a special reason which I don’t know he must be far away from me, then what to say???
As you said mr_the_ex… he knows how I feel for him and that I am gonna thinking the normal…that he did “like” he called “my…” and of course he knows that I want him as a boyfriend, not just friend, If I wanted him as a friend probably we would not never be a couple…
It would be great being again together without our past, with new hopes, with new relationship, but in a relationship it needs two person not one..all that months I was alone trying for us after the break up..maybe now he is thinking of what we had…
but the question is why he is not doing a step if he feels as i feel and what I must do to make him do a step???maybe he moved on and overed me…
Me I did everything and really now I don’t have anymore the strenght to do something else, I try to move on….even if he is on my mind, even if I try the same plan for getting him back I mean the plan of the page…maybe I will be again sad…
He has to do something now…not me…of course if he wants to do something….
@patricia12 thank you very much!!!!
@patricia12 By sending him a message with wishes doesn’t mean that I am chasing him. Above all we were together for 7 months and at least i am a human and I wanted to wish him,I am not gonna be another person and forgeting my behavior all that years to wish to someone even if we are together or not, he did it also before a month , so what was meaning that he was chasing me??? I am not talking to him anymore, and it is normal to want to know why he divorced me, and it is normal to have him still in my heart, and to love him. And now that I said to myself that I will move on, HE started to do all that things. So i don’t know why you think that I am chasing him by wishing him…
@mr_the_ex @patricia12 hell to everyone and here is the continue. He had name day so i wished him “good evening. happy name day. Wish you to have a great day!!!”… I didn’t expected an answer but he answered me, “thank you very much my (and here he wrote my name with “my” example “my sky”), wish you also the best in your life.
I just read the message. His answer was like all the others answers in his social media, me I sent him a private message, and to other people he didn’t used names…
I don’t know what to say, but was strange he did me like, he wrote my name with “my”…After breaking up he just call me with my name only two times and then he was cold…
I know an answer in a wish message does not mean something because if he wants being with me he have to start talking with me …we will see…
(probably it is the second time that I am writing the same message, sorry but I don’t see if I wrote it twice)
@mr_the_ex @patricia12 well my friends, as I was writing to you about hoping etc….my ex after so many days I mean, last conatct was before 23 days and I changed my photo in my social media and he did “like”….ok I know a “like’ doesn’t mean something, I mean by a “like” he wants me back??Not of course! Maybe he liked how I was in photo (beautifull and happy hahahahaah) but he did “like’ and I started again to think why he did it….of course me I didn’t did something to him, no message, no likes, nothing…and of course i saw in his friend’s profile like to a song ..the song was exactly for us and our breaking up, lyrics …i still love you, it was my fault, don’t go, you are mye verything….
I know he can do whatever he wants and by a song also he doesn’t want me back….
But his “like’ to me…made me to think about eveyrhting, and I try to not be again in the hell which i was all that months….
what’s your opion???
Me I am thinking if he wants something he can write to me or calling me….
@mr_the_ex thank you so much for your kind words!!! I wish it with all my heart!!! In my heart there is a hope …we will see!!!!
@patricia12 Thank you patricia!!! Well I had to listed you for the second no contact I didn’t listened you but now I am fine…I am just hoping for something new, , I mean by having this hope in my heart I can move on, i started to not thinking so much my ex, neither to see his social media…I am just thinking my “hope”…soooo…maybe my post will read it by other people here..soooo lets all of us having a hope, this “hope” mad eme strong , i mean hoping that i will find love, I started to be more close to my job i mean to be happy again with my job, with my hobbies, with my friends, and the most important to be happy for my life!!!! Whatever is gonna happen , me i am justing hoping and “hope’ really can make us strong!!!!
Hello to everyone!!! I have a little update…well i asked him did we broke up cause of a very important reason which I knew it from the beggining that is important for you??? He answered me and said me ” No it was not this reason, take this reason out of your mind, please, don’t make yourself sad by thinking this important reason…be happy”
So i told him…what it was then?
No answer…so…I didn’t send something else, i am not gonna send him again, just in birthday , I did everything, i did many things, so it’s time to ove on I suppose…
I read something very beautifull which makes me strong these days ” It is better to have a hope, than to return in a past which made you sad”
I don’t have hope for me and my ex…but right now, really i feel better, It is the no contact which I had to did before months…anymore I just don’t give him attention, Ok, I will be hurted if I see him with other girl, but I feel better…
Many thanks to everyone who helped me all that months!!!! ( @mr_the_ex @patricia12 @KR )
@KR hello KR and thank you one more time for your advice!!!Well in my last message before days before he to upload whatever I wrote, I was telling him, it is hurting me thinking of you with other womens,.. In the other hand, even if in my language his post is for laughing I mean both of girls and boys we can tell it, and I suppose they are many people who are in relationship by meeting someone who is friend of a friend, or like in old times when a man was with a woman without love and the woman was a girl who was the favorite of the mother of the man and his son and girl were married..you know how I mean it..in our ages this is just a joke…
But, he knew it that I am gonna see it, and I am gonna be hurting,he knew how I feel by thinking him with womens and he wrote it, i supposed maybe he wrote it because of my message ok, we broke up and he can write whatever he wants, but it is like to see a different person anymore and not my lovely one!!!
I try to focus on me and sometimes I do it with success, but some days i feel this sadness in my heart…Me too I can write whatever I want, but really until now I never did something on social media about him…
I feel better when someone is flirting me and sometimes I am thinking well I will be with someone else, new dreams, new life…but when I am alone I am thinking the life that we would have with my ex, I am missing the things which we didn’t live because of distance…and still they are things in my heart which hurt me…example…”do dreams baby”, and after two days “I can not tell you anymroe lies, , we must break up”…or when I am thinking of his behavior all that months after breaking up….
Anymroe I am not writing him, I mean after my alst message I didn’t sent him something else, he wrote for meeting other girls, so why to write him??
And in the end, ok he made me sad by posting this, and he is like to not respecting me, he knew I am gonna see it…so if he is happy about this well what to say???ok maybe he does not have love for me anymore, but he did this and broke my heart again…can you tell me which is the benefit in his soul by writing something like this, and to knew that I am gonna be sad???
I will try to make my life happy, I don’t know what is gonna be with him, maybe he will return maybe not, I don’t have hopes that he will return, but maybe I will find the love of my life…i will let you know…
Thank you so much for everything!!!!!
@KR hello KR and thank you so much for your post!!!!So it is better to do again no contact, and he to see how it is to not being in his life….in the past when I did it, he showed that he missed me as I had wrote (hope you had read all my story to see what happened in the past)..
As I see you also think that he does not want the relationship for now, so maybe one day he will change his mind…really in my messages I had told him that ok, I respect that you have also feelings and maybe you don’t want being again together, or you are thinking about us, but I love you and I just want to show you my love and i don’t want to tell you all the time if we will be togetehr, I just want to show you my love…
Really we had a great relationship and here it is the “why”….becausethe so much lovley person he became cold, and he became cold after the no contact period, until the no contact he was speaking me a little better, after no contact I was positive and he understood that I love him..but he became now soooo cold…
I focus on myself but in my heart is something that even if I focus on me, this “something” is still on my heart about him…I blame myself, maybe it wasnt good the no contact, but the same time I say to myself “you had to see if he will miss you’..so he missed me..but nothing, whatever I did I ahd the same result…I showed him respect during the relationship and after the breaking up…
but now maybe he will miss me maybe not…I did everything, he knows evverything and it’s time to think also what he wants….(in my head I think he doesn’t want)
after breaking up for almost two months we were spekaing good, then no contact, and now it it just 3-4 weeks after the end of no contact and happened all these things…
we will see….thank you KR for your answer!!! I try being with friends, and to have dates,…
is there something else to do about him??because I really want him back in my life because I love him so much…I think that I fired everything by telling him that I love him, we had started to speak, but he was cold…as you know….
So now what to do??again no contact???
@mr_the_ex hello mr_the_ex!!!How are you??me i am still up and down…I have lov ein my heart, but I want being only with him and he is getting on my nerves when he does not want to answer me, in the end we had a relationship…why he does not want to answer me?? Why he does not want to tell me “i don’t want being with you, we divorced, I hate you, I am with other girl” whatever …he is in a silence, he is like to not respect my feelings…his behavior shows me this…
Ok he is a good person but when he is acting like this, what I must think??? I give him space, i played my cards, i followed the plan, I asked him what about us, and stil he is in a silence, I don’t have hopes anymore, I love him, I want being with him, and in the end why to do the likes on social media? Why to give me courage?? When I spoke with him he ws more cold than the weather…he had told me during the breaking period you are the most great person, so now he doesn’t want to answer me?? I told him, whatever you think I must know it also because we were together….
Ok, he missed me, but I am here, I show him again love and still he is not doing a step…i told him I will be here showing you my love, and he??? What he is doing?? Nothing..so if you miss me darling do a step, don’t be in a silence,
What this silence means??? because this silence in my eyes means that I don’t care for you girl, you must go far away from my life and you will take the decision, not me, …this is the meaning in my eyes mr_the_ex…he is not taking the responsibility of anything…
i show him all my love,and in return i am taking just a silence…is not he a person??? Does not have feelings?? WHat he is/?? A mountain without feelings?? Have you ever seen something same mr_the_ex???
Maybe he does not want to make me sad again by telling me that we had divorced, but by doing silence makes me more sad…and I told it him in my last message…tell something, even if you don’t want me just tell it…and again silence…..7 months I was there for him, i was showing him my love, I was trying to not make him sad by going in his hometown because he had told me , I dont want to see us someone, it was not about other girl, it was for personal thoughts, i respected him , I respected all his thoughts, and now he is not speaking me…why???? This “why” is eating my soul…he had told me, that it is not your fault, it’s me…so why now is not speaking me???? why??why??why?????
I can’t anymore….really I can’t….ok i am doing everything in my life, working , going out, having fun but his silence breaks my heart and he knows that…
@mr_the_ex Hope it too. Well i wrote him the last message. In which I told him that what happened happened in the past. I love you but anymore I don’t know, so I asked him what he feels, and if exist love between us…of cours ehe read the message. No answer. Then I wrote him that I think it is time to talk together if you wanted, because your heart is important for me, and I would really like to know your thoughts…
Well we wills ee what will happen, i don’t have hopes anymore, but it is getting my nervous when he does not answer and in the end..we had a raltionship at least he can answer me and not playing. Whatever he feels he can say it…
that’s all…
Thank you so much for your help mr_the_ex !!!!
