Robertizle

Well, my ex and I were better.. then her parents made a huge deal about her going to a party that was at my house (her phone died and she got home at almost 6 am) we had a blast, ended up kissing, then well as I took her home.. things got hot and heavy in the car. we spoke briefly after.. she told me if we kept doing this we would get back together in two weeks and I said we weren’t ready for that and she doesn’t want that either. I told her only way is to grow and see later one day if maybe we can start a brand new relationship since last one didn’t go well for a reason. She fought with her parents after that night and told me she needed space.. I gave it to her but I caved in after a while but little by little we started speaking again and she became more herself than before.. apparently she told her parents she was gonna move out and then her parents came to an agreement with her so she stayed (so close-her parents and sis are a hug problem) I kinda think that was a step forward for her but at the same time she is stuck in a way.. she says she is feeling better and also growing and feeling better with herself.. 2 says ago I needed help to study for my finals and I was clear to her I just needed help not a fuck or a drink with her or nothing. She came, playful as usual, helped me.. and then she suggested we should get a beer cause she said she had an amazing plan and place. We jammed all the way to the place and had a blast.. The place was fun.. we talked we laughed, brought up past sex stories between us (she usually brings them up but I remind her sometimes of certain things) we are like magnets.. We want each other but have to lie to each other, I said some things to get a little leverage but in the end it was a positive result that night. Then the time to get home she took me to my car.. she told me to wait till the song I put on spotify was over (it was sheeran) we hugged. After a while I caressed her.. we kissed again passionately. we could both feel it. Intense. Then we went to my car cause we needed to be quick (which we never are) The most intense passionate.. well you get the point, it was incredible as usual. We just have that ultimate connection everywhere and in bed its just as amazing. Then time to said goodbye came and we were out of breathe, sweaty and we laughed for a bit and she had to get home quick so we kissed one last time. told her not to kiss me like that next time she sees me as a joke to which she replied.. Yes! We have to turn the switch off! (it was funny). I led the way home.. she texted me good night.. we still talk a bit but I don’t want to push it. I know we still need a lot of time. I just don’t know.. if I should feel good or.. idk. mixed feelings. sorry for the long post guys. thanks !

Honestly. Replacing her won’t help. You need time. Yes.. it will hurt for a while. But I tried the whole being with another person deal.. the whole time I thought about her. Even in bed. So yeah. It takes time. Just try to improve yourself and sadly admit that she might never come back. It will get tough and lonely.. and most likely no one except this board will know what you are going through. Just work on you.. and I wish you the best. Don’t fall for her attention traps.

Yes Thargus, she will be mind f*** trust me. But just hang in there man. Your ex is the type thay actually contacts you. You are gonna make her feel in a way insecure. If she contacts you. Let us know. We are here to help. For now, stay strong. Don’t give her what she wants.

It was. I doubt 8 years of bffs and 1 year as a real couple goes to waste so easily.. I will def keep u updated thanks !

Like amy111 told me once.. it’s normal to have that fear of them moving on, they wont. Not if you guys have had a long and meaningful relationship. The fact you don’t talk to him for this time will make it harder for him.. not having you there suffering.. will show them and make them think YOU moved on. And maybe he isn’t sleeping around.. that’s good but you should think positive and not even think about it. If he acts cold. Use that against him like judo.. his own force to make him slip and fall.. once you talk to him you need to be a different you.. version 2.0.. be happy. If he is cold.. you treat him like an acquaintance.. be nice but not too nice. And over mature about things. If he is a dick.. you be nice. He is gonna be like.. why is she being so chill about me being a dick? Then you will make him insecure.. he will think both consciously and sub.. did she really move on?! A while back she was crying over me!! And then.. you have him in the palm of your hands. At least, that’s how most people react. But let time heal all and focus on yourself my love! THINK positive and kick ass!

Dude.. I’d go. Honestly. And btw I checked my email @hensey. Nothing. Anywhere

Ok I’ll check right now, guys I have a thought. Weird and low.. probably a cheap shot. Or a shot in the dark. But, what can we all do together to make each one of us look awesome in social media or something .. that our ex’s can see? Like.. if we all put our heads together and make it look like we are helping the world or something or everyone posts a big thank you on our walls on fb and ppl see this.. our exs will see. And be intrigued.. childish ..maybe. but it can be a hell of an attention grabber for our exs.. idk. Could be cool. Let’s try it out?? Use one of us as an experiment haha. I know silly but.. thoughts anyways.