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You think i dont wonder what my ex is doing? Dear one. This is the greatest fear we will ever have. And we gotta deal with it with harmony and patience. The more you contact him the more delayed is ur healing. Trust our love we have for our significant others. Dont stress out. A good man once said. Stress is the condition we start believing in the negative and doubting the positive. Just relax its good. Besides NC is primarily for you. And you need to heal. Besides he has been with you for four years. ( look at me. I even doubt if i was my ex’s rebound) its a long time. One cant wipe out such a long time in 7 weeks. You wont miss ur chance. If it still bothers you.. Shorten ur nc to 21 days. If he contacts u before it, ignore him. And text him on day 22. If he doesnt, do till day 30. Try and stablize meanwhile. Like it or not but our loved ones are the source of our anxiety. We gotta lose our anxiety to get em back. So just try and calm down… For his sake and urs
Hell no. Whatever it is trust me it can wait. NC day 14 :'( for me. I nearly broke my nc but its still on. Be strong. For both of urs sake
Ohk. Hi amy. I just gave it a read. And although i do agree with folk for going on a 3 month nc. But if he needs freedom from you, i think you just start talking to him later. After a decided nc atleast. Or perhaps after hes back from his trip. But Be truly SUBTLE. One cant always hide whats on their mind especially from someone who knows them like the back of their own hand. So yeah. Stay in slight touch after NC and take it slow. Meanwhile, just relax. Because we cant do something about stuff which is out of our hands. So just try and relax. Heal. Your healing up is important to you and to him too.
I say shift your focus. Do anything. Go out .walk.movie. Yoga. Helps alot. Btw. Did he break up? Wait i thought i your post on ur break up story in reconcilitaion. Ill give it a read. I have mine one there too. Care to give it a read ? ( i know i sound “strange” as to put it politely)
Day 13 feels like forever. I deactivated my fb and have not turned it on. Even messenger. ( i had did it countless times in days ago but im still off it) i went for a movie today. Felt all alone.
Either way. Hope is good. But if it is creating a sense of longing , then it isnt hope. It is obsession. Im much less obsessed now. I do get sad. Hell im sad most of the time. I saved her number as Ex(no contact rule) to help me remind of it just in case i get urge to call or she calls and i am about to pick it up. We are of course miserable without our better halves. But we gotta be strong. Become better. Stable. For good. For us and for them too.it wont be of any use otherwise
And no . You dont sound pathetic. I totally understand. Even a little glimmer of their love towards us gives us hope.
How is your nc going ? 🙂Dear Amy.
I know how you maybe feeling. Im pretty recent into NC too. Its my day 12. I just suggest that you keep off it. Obsessing over your ex is not speed anything up. I wont be a hypocrite. I too check up her fb page but all it does is make me anxious and if i get a slightest hint that shes missing me it makes me anxiius even more. According to my experience , nothing can be more traumatic in this life than a break up of a relationship ( not even death). So. This being the greatest trauma and we being the survivors, i suggest you stay off his page and statuses as much as you can. Because you do need to get over the emotional trauma. Not sure if this was helpful but hey. More you share your pain the faster it goes away. I wish you luck 🙂 lord bless you and give you strength
