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hi catherine! from what i am seeing, if your ex and his current girl are having problems now..even if they are trying to fix it, it wont last long at all. problems within 2 months of a relationship? no way. Maybe they are going through a real bumpy ride and perhaps anytime soon that profile pic will change. As for him blocking your friend, maybe he still feels some type of way about you, as it probably did remind him of you when your friend sent the request.
how are you doing today Sorchal? any updates on your ex replying to your message?
what mrswb said is right, we all want our ex’s back in our lives but rmr that it is their life too. We cant just focus on only us and please our needs. You dont have to go NC, since you two are slowly talking but let her message you and just chat as if you were just friends. It is hard to talk to someone you love and not show the same emotions as before but it is something that needs to be done for now, until your ex begins to move forawrd a bit.
as for myself i have began letting go, but not because i am giving up on her ,but this is something for the both of us. I have learned SO MUCH since the break up and i have become and change into a different person from than what i was 2 months ago. All my rage is gone. I use to hold one specific rage because she broke it off a week before my birthday and man it was the WORST birthday ever. But now.. i don’t care, the greatest gift from this was that I have gotten to learn a lot about others and that we all are going through something and when we help each other on this board it eases the pain a bit. I have also been shopping a lot.. as i use to hate shopping with my ex but now..heck im buying new outfits, shoes, training gear..lol. For some strange reason shopping makes me feel better lol.
Fishingthesky, I know how you feel, as i see some of my friends on FB getting engaged and i wish i had the oppotunnity to do it this year but it’s a shame. The worse thing is they have been in a relationship a lot less than i have and already popped the question. Has your ex read your letter any more times so far? last you said was 7? I have hopes that she will reply back but i dont know when but maybe it is taking time for her to gather her feelings. When you wrote a goodbye letter the first time you guys broke up, and you guys got back, how long was it before she replied back? do you rmr? AHah yes, this board is starting to change into something else..
MrsWB, it would be nice if one of us gets some progress as i do check daily in hopes someone gets some good news but pretty much it’s more ironblood making progress.. and i do enjoy his daily summary haha. Well you pretty much had no choice but to snoop as i know you were left with not much answers at all. Did him and this girl just become friends recently ? is he liking any of her posts? it is so true..many people tell you things, and i admit i have told people the same thing “focus on yourself”,”get over it”, etc but it is so difficult once you go through this pain and nobody will ever know how its like until it happens to them. Is that the type of women he told you he likes? well you and him had a relationship so i am sure he loves your type. I am sure if he wasnt interested in you, you two would have never started anything. But i still have hope that he will contact you. Maybe you should go shopping lol splurge a little 😉 go to a spa and have a chance to relax your mind.
i downloaded it, mine is pingpong604, feel free to add me. i had another account before but it had my ex’s photo and i tried to change it but it wont change so i had to make a brand new account lol itll be nice having kik as it is more instant and we will always be there if needed.
thanks fishingthesky, really appreciate your input. yes, it is very relieving as when i held everything, all it did was cause me to stress. My ex is 24, so our ex’s are very close in age. You aren’t giving false hope , as it is just reality and if it happens, i have to be prepared for it. I thought about what you said a few days ago as our ex’s being our “properties” and you are right. I love her so much and i dont own her in anyway, she is a humanbeing and if she wants to date or do whatever, she can! It’s her life and i have no reason to be controling her. i love and respect her so much, i cant beleive i thought that way before when i found out she was “seeing” someone. Once again, thank you fishingthesky, as you keep opening my mind more each day.
she might’ve thought you were trying to repeatedly call her as it seems you do tend to ask if its okay to “call” a lot or it’s just me. But try not to panic so much and like i said before, probably best to let her call you and if you do miss a call, maybe just message first and be like “i missed you call, whats up?” and go from there. Or you can simply call her back if you missed a called, i see no issue in returning a call. But like what fishinginthesky said, you gotta be patient. as shitty as it is to take things slowly, youre doing this for her cause you care and love for her.
as for myself it has been 7 days of NC now. but we have been broken up for 2 months next week. Yes this was our very first break up. your postive words made bme very happy haha but i dont wanna get my hopes up as i want to expect the unexpected and be prepared for worse case scenarios. But thanks, hopefully she will contact me before i do but she might not cause like i said before, she said she was “seeing” someone so he might be keeping her occupied. But i will save my letter as a last resort. My ex did contact me before a week or so after the break up, we had a small arguement but i did NC and she texted saying she was sorry and missed me and missed being love, etc. but lets see what happens this time. have a good night ironblood, hopefully tomorrow is a better day for you 🙂
what do you guys think about this..Canadian thanksgiving is coming up and i wanted to text my ex’s mom because i feel that it would be the most respectful thing to do since i have been in there family for 7 years and this year will be the first time i wont be there for a holiday dinner. I was thinking of saying ” Hey L___, wanted to wish you a happy thanksgiving! I can smell the stuffing from here! Please send my holiday greetings to grammy, and all the aunties, as i miss and love you all.”
My family never celebrated thanksgiving as we are very oriental, and not really chrsitmas. Or any american holiday actually.. so i am very thankful for my ex’s family to have welcomed me in and taught me so much about the holidays and my love for stuffing, as i didnt have a clue what the hell it was before LOL. My ex’s family have taught me SO much from expanding my english vocab, as I am not FOB (fresh off the boat) as i was born in canada, but english is my 2nd language, so when i analyze things in my brain, it goes from vietnamese to english..if that makes any sense lol. I hope me messaging her mom wont effect NC? since it is not my ex that i am contacting..I wanted to say my ex’s name in too but probably best not to.. unless you guys have any other ways i can word it.. but best not to.. as my intentions arent to stick out to my ex, but i want her family to know than i still love and miss them. Or should i just not contact her mom at all..
MrsWb, you may be right but i have always seen myself a bit more mature than other young men my age. to be honest..i would love to settle down, as my intentions were to propose to my ex this year.. more towards decemeber actually. But this has all changed. Now that her and i have broken up. Before i use to be able to see my future clearly but now it’s all a blur. We talked about children, and how many, etc but one thing was the problem before we can do all that..and it was to be finacially ready, and that was the key i was working towards and i tried to bring in as much income as possible but she would get upset at me for that as i had spent lesser times with her. I was too focus on the future and shouldve focus just on the present. But now since the future is unclear to me. All i live now is for the moment.
Fishinginthesky, you are absoutely right. I have felt incredible in the last 2 days, as the negativity doesnt make a deep impact anymore. It still lingers around but I am learning to become more immune. There use to be rage in my heart as when i first found out, she told me dating other ppl weren’t her intentions, but now i dont care anymore. Like what you said, shes experiencing something different, something new, and that is ok. Maybe this is what she needs to do, to see what I have from what the guy she’s seeing doesnt have. But I can actually go through my day now, without feeling really down every few hours. I wonder how i will feel like by the time i have to make contact again, 3 weeks from now.
I see, he didn’t ask about you. Maybe he is or he isn’t but for now I think it’s best for you to live without him MrsWB. You are a strong independent woman and I know you will pull through. Pretty sure you can attract many men so it’ll be easy pickings for you lol but when you’re ready that is. Please go enjoy yourself, try to make many plans with your girlfriends so you’re occupied. Have fun! Hope work went well for you.
For me, I no longer care if there is another guy in the picture as for some reason I have shut him out of my mind, and am only focused on my future relationship with her and improving myself. No messages or anything from her yet, other than her using my “Spotify” (music app) cause we shared accounts since I pay monthly for it. She stopped using it after she told me there was another guy..PRETTY SURE she used it lol but it’s weird idunno why it’s bothering me lol back to work!
Hmm no idea why she shortened her text’s maybe she’s not feeling it so much today? As you did say she was feeling sick so when we are sick, we aren’t in the greatest mood. Give it a few days when she gets better, perhaps her mood will change then.
As for my situation, you might be right maybe she just hasn’t gotten to change her profile. As I don’t want get get my hopes up. I am feeing better tho, like I am ready to give her my letter but it hasn’t been even 1 week yet lmao. Only 6 days of NC so far. I told myself give it a month. Hopefully she will contact me before I contact her. That would be nice, but no hopes on it.
I majored biochemistry in uni before but got bored of books and so am a carpenter (something I really enjoy) and I flip properties.
It seems like you did the right thing, leaving it to a way that she must answer. If she replies , than she does if not so be it but yes I think so NC until she messages you back is a good idea.
I’m doing decent today. Not as great as yesturdsy but way better than the other weeks. I was feeling curious and checked my ex’s Twitter. As I am still following her on it and she is also following me (but I never use Twitter or ever post ANYTHING. I made an account cause it was just a fad) but anyways she still has our photos on her Twitter profile. I know she uses it to check for traffic and stuff and check up on TMZ for celebrity scandals and stuff. Unless she stopped using it suddenly but I don’t think so. She doesn’t post anything on Twitter but just follows ppl and reads thing. It gave me hope still but Isunno what to think of it. Any insight on this? Well back to work for me!
hey ironblood, I can see where you are coming from. As it is hard to see improvements with these subtle talks but maybe this is what she wants and needs. To slowly rebuild what you guys had. again, try not to think so much in it lol as i know it is hard for you. Easier said than done since i am not in this position but i feel you. Best you can do now is just be there for her have small talks and when shes ready to open up, she will. Try not to ask her to talk on the phone or anything that may be too much for her to handle. I am sure she will reach out to you when she is ready (like the first time, she called you so fast!) so take it easy bro and dont get so overwhelmed. You two are making a lot more progress than any of us haha.
hmm did some more thinking and perhaps he put you ahead of himself all the time and finally decided that it was about time he has to put himself first? but than he couldve simply told you if tht was the case… very confusing as i am sure many of us has never heard of a situation like this. It’s very hard and would be cool if “kevin” the creator of this board could shine some light to help you out but i doubt he would message.
But i hope you are doing a lot better MrsWB. I dont want you to be holding on forever and sometimes it’s best to try and forget it all and live your life. I havent felt like how i feel today in a long time. I finally got to sing out loud in my truck without feeling sad, i got to work fast and effectively without being stopped to think about her. It is strange. Hopefully this continues as i need this feeling to carry on with my life. I have also starting playing World of Warcraft (PC game) as b4 my ex it kept me really occupied and took over my life lol
hey mrswb, got back from long hours but i hope youre holding up. I had to reread your thread as i forgot that you emailed him after 2 weeks. I was reading a blog before about relationships and that during a break up they said you have to assume your ex a liar, as they love you so much that they dont want to hurt you as bad and during the break up they wont tell you everything.
your situation is making me a bit frustrated as i feel you should ask for answers from him like what makes him think that he isn’t good enough for you, since it seems like he was perfect for you.
weird thing happened to me today, not sure if you are familiar with “pandora” the music app that you can make a playlist. my ex started using my account agin ( she stopped when she told me she was seeing someone) but i noticed the playlist she uses it was on the top..ODD.. hope im driving her crazy in her mind lol. I am sure there are many things that reminds her of me
Hey MrsWB, your situation is very puzzling as he left with no answers at all and it’s just poison. Have you maybe considered writing a letter to him perhaps for closure for your sake? So hopefully it all will be answered and you may finally be at peace? As I’m not trying to be tough or anything but 7-8 weeks is very long for something to just not say a word, since you two had such a connection.
Did his best friend tell your ex that he’s been in contact with you? I assume not as that might break their friendship. Be strong MrsWB. And don’t fall alseep on the job lol
