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ahh okay thats what i was wondering lol cause u said you really miss him but you met up with him and i thought maybe you’d pursue it? i mean leaving the ball in his court might not be a bad idea i guess. As for your date, I’m thinking maybe you noticed he lacked things because you still miss your ex? me and my ex broke up 2 and a half months ago and i finally just kinda feel like I’ve moved on within the last week or 2 and all of a sudden i don’t feel like women lack the things i once thought anymore, i see more clearly. so what I’m trying to say is maybe he’s not what you think he is, and maybe you’re not ready to date yet! i know kevin says go out on a date but not everyones ready so soon ya know!
you said you did 5 weeks NC then met your ex for coffee and it went well.. but then you guys stopped talking? confused lol
i don’t think there needs to be love per say. A strong connection or really liking someone would probably work too. In my case i THINk she had love tho so
heres my thread violet! maybe you could shed some light on this situation!
Update: i found out she had a “boyfriend” 2 weeks after our breakup. However around 5 weeks after they got together he kinda just stopped talking to her. she also told her mom and friends that i was verbally abusive, although thats the furthest thing form the truth and her best friends called her on it and told her i wasn’t. Ive now been NC about month nd a half and i actually feel greatyeah I’m confused as well. Her parents really liked me, her friends really liked me but her roommates are crazy and did not. They convinced her i was “verbally abusive” when i was NEVER that and she told her mom that and now her mom doesn’t like me lol. But her best friends have told her she’s full of it pretty much so i have that going for me. And our relationship was excellent.. she was never happier then with me. So well see. I’m a month NC and nothing fmor her so idk yet it might take her a while lol.. i was her first tho in bed and love so that has to mean something i think
similar kinda haha.. mine is going through GIGS (grass is greener syndrome). we broke up 2 months ago and she already had a rebound relationship in which the guy just stopped talking to her.. i think now she might begin to realize cause even her best friends told her that i was good to her.. altho her mom and roommates who are crazy are telling her the opposite. but the circumstances leading up to it are very similar! did ur other 2 exes ever contact you after you NC them? Also i wanna assure you it does get a lot easier haha. I know everybody says that.. took me roughly 2 months and just now I’m starting to feel good on a regular basis! hopefully you start to feel good everyday soon 🙂
hey man i had a VERY similar situation. I don’t think mine was depressed but she has extreme mood swings and everything seemed great right before the breakup. we had sex the night before, she texts me lovey dove thing 3 hours before then were done. No signs leading up to it. Ive been NC for a month now and heard nothing from her. So i think you have a good shot here, but i think its gonna take a while! id prepare yourself for the long haul.. if you’re relationship is great like i think mine was then one day shell be back! the waiting game is the hardest part.. but finally like you i feel good again all the time 🙂 just be careful.. a few days in NC i felt great too but it didn’t alays last ya know? so be prepared to maybe not feel so good again in the coming days.. don’t wanna sound mean but i just wanna prepare you so it doesn’t hit you as hard 🙂
and i know you said he isn’t the type to rebound but i think her last relationship was dude. Just because she is the type not to get involved unless its for real but its possible and likely she didn’t even know it was a rebound! let her be for a while, see what happens!
hey man I’m not actually sure its over yet! kevins method isn’t exactly for every girl.. certain ones u need to do a lot longer NC and let them comeback to you after they’ve realized what they’re missing out on. i know this might be challenging but NC her for a good few months and see if she starts coming back to you again! in the mean time you can try to move on and meet other people if you choose! for certain types like hopeless romantics if you had a good relationship then a lot of times they’ll comeback!
id definitely be interested in hearing how you knew when to break your nc and stuff too!
my ex and i broke up a bit over 2 months ago. I sent her the letter about a month ago, but at the time she already had a new “boyfriend” (they started dating 2 weeks after her and i broke up). altho he ended up breaking up with her now, she never replied to my letter. In fact she thought it was weird because she was just trying to be happy with this new guy. That might be whats happening with your ex. Maybe just trying to focus on the new relationship. Its probably still in the honeymoon phase, meaning your ex is probably really happy. once that ends that will probably change. For now all you can do is wait.
you need ALOT of NC. Not just for him to miss you.. for yourself too. If you continue to look the way you do now to him then he won’t be attracted to you again. But more then anything you need to get yourself together as well. NC is definitely your answer for a while here!
update: so ex and i broke up around 9 weeks ago. (we came to conclusion it was a G.I.G.S breakup) she entered what i assumed to be a rebound relationship around 2-3 weeks after. Now I’m told that a week or 2 ago the guy she was dating (she had told her friends he was her boyfriend) not only broke it off with her, but just completely stopped talking to her, without even officially breaking it off. Goes to show what a lot of college men are like. She’s a hopeless romantic so after 5-6 weeks and nothing happening he probably just became not interested and went back on the hunt. Hopefully thats a good start to getting rid of the G.I.G.S!
