omegaflare

Okay.. interesting…

I decided to go out on a very casual date with a friend of mine on facebook. Open relationship means casual dating according to Wikipedia and other sources.

1) When I immediately went into open-relationship/causal dating my ex-girlfriend got very mad at me saying “I thought you’re madly in love with me..”

2) I told her (long walled of messages) that it’s only a causal and friendly date, nothing serious. I asked if she wanted to talk about it – she agrees.

3) I told my date that this is a very bad idea.. and the only intention was to have someone to talk to. She understood and we left with no hard feelings.

4) My ex-girlfriend started to talk to me casually after the breakup. Now since the incident with casual date with someone on facebook, she got mad at me. She’s still talking to me now, tho much better than yesterday. She knows I had feelings for her and she has some feelings left for me, and still misses me tho to a certain extent.

Let me sum up what happened before our relationship: first one was short – within weeks. She wanted to go back with her ex-boyfriend. She said she still loves me and would not let me go. I was okay with that cuz I was with her the whole time (long distance). There was an incident where her ex-boyfriend fucked up major big time to the point where her father kicked her out of the house; she cried bitterly, she called me on skype and begged me to come. She eventually stayed with her mother and made her life more miserable — she skyped me a lot and I was there for her for nearly 3 weeks. I made her very happy; no one was there for her, no, not even her ex-boyfriend. Then at one point, he ex-boyfriend text’d her and called her a whore and hurled other insults. She cried badly, very badly. She called me on skype and told me what happened, and decided to break him up; then this is where we got back together for the 2nd time. It went great for 3 months, and during that time her ex-boyfriend text’d her constantly and made derogatory remarks such as paying for sex and “I know you want it..” and calling her a whore still and post rude image on Facebook — remember, he constantly broke the NC rule. She eventually blocked him on Facebook. Then last week on September, he text’d her emotionally saying he’s sorry and wanted to forget what happened and want to mend things peacefully; she unblocked him and they hooked up before we broke up. Then she broke me up last week for really trivial reasons that her ex-boyfriend also did. So I was confused until I found out that she went back with her ex; he engaged in sexual interaction on day 1 and 2. So… I am very confused right now because I know this is a rebound relationship (happened before, crashed and burned before my eyes between those two). And he’s not looking after her heart on day 1, just sex, like he always do.

So two questions:

1) Her ex-boyfriend broke NC rule constantly and yet those two managed to get together somehow. Maybe she’s different?

2) I will be speaking with her tonight because she wasn’t happy I because I dated someone. Does this indicate that she still has feelings for me?

Thanks!