YES, start the 5 step process!! NO CONTACT she has to forget the bad times and remember the good!! one thing i learned is the time goes by anyway – keep busy find that job! then at least you have good news to share and show your doing good! the fact that she even speaks to you i think is a good sign that you can do this.. Happy wishes to you! iknow how hard it is! dont post sad things on fb during this time!