lily1432

You are right. I’m just scared that she’ll think ‘Hey look we are better off as friends because now things are not complicated.’ That’s why she wanted to stay friends right after our break-up. That way she still had everything, you know?

I hope you are!

Well we talked about feelings a lot when we were together and she had no problem with that at all. It became a problem after the break-up, you know? These discussions I talked about were really small ones. I asked a lot of my friends about them and they have the same sort of ‘discussions’ with their partners.

My ex just wasn’t ready for anything serious and she didn’t want a relationship with anyone but she decided to take the risk with me. She thought these discussions were signs that things were too complicated because she never ‘fights’ with anyone. I realized that after I lost her.

I know it might be better for us to just be friends for a while, but it’s hard for me to be just friends because I want her back. We were never really just friends before we started dating, but we were each other’s best friend during our relationship. Now we’re nothing anymore and that hurts.

I really want to be less clingy and needy because I think that is one of the reasons she didn’t want our relationship anymore. She’s still really young and very independent. I am independent too but I lost a lot of my independence now and that needs to change. I want to become a better person. For myself. But also for her.

I promise you that we are very compatible. That’s why I’m not ready to give up yet. What we had was really good, a few things just went wrong. We’re both young. I made mistakes and kept making them and that’s why she didn’t want to continue anymore. She made mistakes too. If we were to get back together I wouldn’t make those mistakes anymore, I just don’t know how I can show that to her. I don’t know how I can make her believe me?

I really just wanna have a good time at the concert. I don’t want to talk about the break-up anymore. I just want her back and I would wait until she’s ready again. Do you think she’ll ever be able to forget all the negativity and start thinking about all the good things we had? Right after our break-up she thought we would get back together eventually..

I feel like giving up 🙁

Thank you for replying!

I know I shouldn’t check her social media but it’s the only thing that still connects me to her, you know? She’s really active on Twitter and so am I (well I’m not that active anymore because I just don’t feel like tweeting a lot). Why is she posting these things though? She obviously knows I see them. My brother says it’s because she is immature and only thinking about herself right now. I don’t interrogate her about everything. She had posted things before, this was the first time I asked her about something because I knew via our friend that it was about me. It just upset me that she lied about it to me because she told me it wasn’t about me.

Do you think I shouldn’t tweet anymore until the concert? And do you think I shouldn’t post any snaps on my snapchat story anymore either? I always post a lot of snaps there (even before we broke up). She always checks my story. I don’t check hers anymore.

She wanted to stay friends after our break-up so I’m pretty sure she won’t mind me being there. We talked about it on the phone on Monday and I asked her if we were still going together (with our friends as well) and she was like ‘Yeah of course.’ I’m just confused.

Hey thanks for replying! I messed up though 🙁

On Thursday March 3rd it all went wrong. She had posted something on Twitter (something like ‘I deserve someone who is gentle and kind, because my soul is getting tired.’) and she had told one of our mutuals friends it was about me (she doesn’t know that that friend is trying to help me). She said that she was really happy now and that my insecurities had ‘dragged’ her down, that she was realizing that more and more every single day. I don’t get why she is saying that because I started being insecure AFTER she broke up with me, you know?

So I freaked out and texted her to ask what the twitter post was about and she got mad so I started calling her and she didn’t pick up and she got really pissed and I called her like thirty times and ugh. I messed up. She said ‘You are just imagining things in your head. I’m doing nothing wrong. I’ll ignore you if you can’t act normal.’ I apologized but she was really mad.

This Monday (March 7th) I asked her if we could call. And she said yes and she was being super nice, we talked about random things. But then I tried to talk about the twitter post and she got really pissed again and ugh. She was like ‘I don’t want to talk about feelings and stuff anymore. I thought you had finally gotten that.’ I ended the conversation in a nice way but I haven’t heard from her since. So this is my third day of the actual no contact (so no contact on Tuesday, Wednesday and now today).

Did I mess things up even more? She isn’t contacting me at all now. What do I do now? Is the concert still a good idea? How do I get her back? 🙁

Btw: she keeps checking my snapchat stories. Would it be better for me to not post anything anymore? So she can miss me? I’m so lost 🙁

Anyone?