kathleen

No I haven’t once mentioned
Let’s get back together and haven’t once mentioned about meeting up. I said ‘ I’ll leave that down to you when you’re free I’m in no rush ‘ that’s what I wrote.
I also haven’t asked what his feelings are towards me or anything as I kind of want to see his own thoughts on me you know let them flow and not force anything. He has said he misses me and realizes what I done was trying to be really good to him his said that on his own.

We did have a bit of a issue over The Weekend I must say. He kind of went abit flakey on me and not sure why. He said he was up for going to this party with me on Saturday I said yeah sure here the details I said will be fun and relaxed and good atmosphere. Then the morning of the party he completely switched and I’m not sure why he wrote saying
This is all abit much i think you think we’re in a relationship and I feel really awkward sorry I won’t be attending.
I was in complete shock angry and hurt by that.
I wrote back saying where on earth has this come from Iv never said we’re together where did you get that from and you wanted to come and now you don’t and I’m sorry if made you feel awkward and if I make you feel that way then perhaps we shouldn’t be talking. It kind of makes me think his just made an excuse and gaslighted me to flake not meeting. I’m not sure if it’s because his still confused, maybe drinking still, mental health still not correct or his insecure I really don’t know.
Anyways after a few hours later I was at the party with friends and he text me saying I wish I was there with you shame I can’t drive there as I’m down at the pub so can’t drive and I wish I could give you a big kiss. I wrote back saying you could of came and I think there’s been a miss communication somewhere And it’s a shame and wish tonight planned out differently.

Now that’s happened Iv kind of stepped back and not texting him as I think perhaps he needs to reflect on what on earth happened. And I’m also abit upset that it kind of seemed like it was my fault.
His blamed me before for things like gaslighted I feel like and I don’t like that at all. Honestly all Iv done is try be nice & supportive of the guy because of what his been going through but I’m like treated abit poorly. So I think perhaps best thing for me to do now is not contact him and see if reaches out. Hopefully you’ll agree that’s best option after reading this?

We had only been dating 5 months which is a massive shame as things were going really well then BAM things went abit crazy with the new job offer, losing his mate, stress & drinking.
I don’t want people to think oh for heavens sake grow up its not like years or anything like that.