kathleen

I don’t stalk his Instagram stories haha
When people post you view them they come up the top and they then disappear

I’m not really sure what to say in regards to his looks without insulting him?
He does look really rough and I have a major gut feeling something is wrong?
I did reach out to him today though just asked how his doing with everything that’s going on. As it’s been 10 days of radio silence from him which I thought was strange.
He said it’s rubbish and work is really rubbish and his not sure how he will cope.
I responded saying
I’m sorry to hear this and how come you haven’t reached out it would of been nice to have heard from you?
He didn’t respond to me for hours and then he wrote back saying I’m just about to start a quiz on this phone app with my friends it’s going to be really funny.
I didn’t have a clue what kind of reply that was?
So I waited then text him saying enjoy your
Quiz perhaps we can FaceTime or call due to everyone being quarantined at the moment.

Just so weird what’s happening :-/ I want to say something but I don’t want to insult him? There clearly is something wrong?

Thank you tasin for the comment. Much appreciated.
I’m taking it as slow as possible.
I have spoken to him on the phone just the once we haven’t had any further phone conversations. He seemed fine on the phone didn’t seem drunk or anything.

I’m not going to lie I am very concerned about him still.

Since I haven’t commented on here in a while. Basically things were going well over text seemed chatty all fine.
Then he said let’s meet so we planned on meeting. Then the day of he cancelled he said
‘ stuck at work dunno how long I’ll be I’m having really shit day and I’m super stressed out ‘

Of course I was angry but thought now let it lie it was first time he planned since been speaking again so gave him benefit doubt and ‘ said look if it’s a problem don’t worry we can plan to meet another time I hope you sort things out sorry to hear you’ve had rubbish day ‘

I left it a few days and asked how he was feeling and he said I’m having a really stressful time right now I just don’t really know what to do I never have time for myself lately. He seemed pretty annoyed and stressed out. So said look after horse of don’t get I’ll over stress it’s super bad for you! I said I’m here if you need anything ok need a ear to chew on or want to do something fun you know where I am he said thank you.
The next day he said I looked amazing in one my pictures on snap and he said have a lovely day I said thank you.
He said you’re such a lovely girl and have everything going for you. I said thank you for saying that.
That was last Iv heard from him in 5 days.
I decided to give him some space.

Sounds to me he needs to leave that job.
Even my friend jade said to me today money isn’t everything your health is sounds like he needs to do what’s right for himself.

Obviously I don’t want to have my time wasted. And I don’t wanna wait for this guy months and months. If he plans to meet me again and then cancels I know something more is up. Perhaps I’m the re bound girl or something? I really don’t know. But that’s something I don’t want to be and I hate my time being wasted.

I still haven’t accepted him on Instagram as like said above it doesn’t feel right he hasn’t said anything about that. But to me if we’re not meeting then what’s point.

Hope you guys agree with me and hope you think I’m doing the right thing? And also any tips please feel free to share.

Xx

City work is working in London busy city, long train travel too ect. And no I don’t know the ins and out of recruitment office work I’m not in that industry I am also dyslexic his explained it to me but I don’t have a clue.
Isn’t really my cup of tea that life style. Hopefully he figures it out what he wants to do in life. Also working in the city has high risks of suicide I think it happens daily now. My dads been there too and it was horrible seeing my dad go through that.
Perhaps a new job would do him some good.

Thought give you a little update.
Iv been no contact with him as you know since Saturday.
However last night he was texting me & he called me too. First time we’ve spoken on the phone in a while which was surprising actually as thought hed never phone me.
Anyways I kept my distance on the phone and over text.

He was saying sorry babe I haven’t text things at work have been really stressful I haven’t spoken to many people this week I swore I text you but clearly I was wrong. I said to him what’s happening with your job then what’s going on as seem always stressed lately. He said we’ll have to be honest the meeting near yours is actually another job offer. I don’t really enjoy what I’m doing as it’s taking too much time and stress out of me. I said to him you need to do what’s right for you. He said I don’t sleep much and I keep getting ill I said you need to sleep and take vitamins. I said have a think what you want in life and do what’s right for you and healthy for you.
He said you seem very quiet are you ok I said I’m just abit I’ll today sorry ( which I am got a flu but I kind of wanted to hear what he wanted to say you know so kept quiet )
He said I’d really like to see you how was your party on Saturday I said it was really good but rubbish venue he said yeah it’s not great round there glad you had fun tho sorry couldn’t make it.
He then said right well I’m at home now so I’ll text you. And he text me and it got abit sexual :-/ he was saying how much he missed having sex with me and how much he wanted to show me his ***** and stuff like that. I was being cheeky and said I bet you do and I miss it too. And I said look tho I’m not going to start sending you snaps and don’t want you to send me snaps right now as I feel rough and think too soon he said no that’s ok I understand.

I noticed today his been trying to add me on IG now I’m really concerned and wary I don’t really want to add him I must admit. I’m worried he just wants to stalk me on there rather then actually talk to me and be decent to me you know. Am I right in not accepting him? Do you think I should mention this to him?
He said the meeting for this new job is next week if it goes to plan and that he wants to see me after so not sure if that happens wait till then and then tell him I’m abit wary? Obviously I’m wary too his going to flake on me.

So yeah I kind of thought I’d update you on that.

P.s sorry you probably thought you got rid of me and I’m probably really annoying you guys. I kind of enjoy writing down my feelings it’s therapeutic.

Ok I’ll see if he reaches out meeting up. Like said I can’t remember if it was this Friday or next that his meeting is in my home town I deleted the text message.

But I’ll leave that up to him. I haven’t text him or chased him. I’m not that type of person anyways. So hopefully I don’t come across clingy or anything I would hate to think I came across like that.

If I hear from him I’ll let you know what he says.

And yes you’re right he could well still have a drinking problem as 3 months isn’t a long time to get your act together. Also I think he might have commitment issues right now aswell his not said but kind of sense it.

Thank you for writing back to me I appreciate it. Sometimes you feel alone and don’t want to bug friends.

X

Sorry for the confusion No He mentioned he had a meeting wayy before with what happened Saturday.
He said he would be in my home town I believe this Friday or next Friday ( I deleted the text when I decided to go no contact Sunday morning So forgotten exactly when ) and he wanted to take me for some food and drinks after his meeting and to talk properly about things. That is what he said.
I said yeah sure. And obviously I don’t know if that’s still going to happen or not I kind of have left it down to him hopefully that’s the right thing to do considering with what happened on Saturday?