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Hey @ami @robertize My ex just contacted me today (big surprise) and ask me about my summer trip.. I still act cool. And I also found that the girl he’s talking with change her avatar with a photo of my ex when he was a kid. Can it mean something??

hey @amy do you think NC still work if I messed it up once? (I asked if he still love me after 1.5 months NC and he just be silent) I’m doing NC again. How long do you think I should take it? You seem like an expert in NC 😛

@Robertizle yay thank you, I’m gonna do exactly what you told me. How are you doing with your NC?

Hi everyone, I know I’m new here but I really want to join the conversation. I have spent time reading all your stories. Anyway, I’m not good at giving advice because I’m just like an amateur in such thing 😛 but I will follow and try to help you guys out if I can!! I also have my story which need your help too. I know we’re all in the same situation and I am happy that I can find somebody to talk to… so I hope I can do it with you guys here 😀

If you have time, please help me out with my story 😀

Background: I was away for 2 weeks. During that time, I was very cold to him (it’s my fault I have to admit). I did not text him regularly and we did not communicate much. He did text me that he missed me during that time. Everything was fine. But after I came back I misunderstood something and I was mad. At first, he was trying hard to apologize. But I was kinda losing my mind and texted him to break up. He replied me back a very long message saying how much he loves me, but he still agreed to break up. After a day thinking, I was quite regret and I call to see him and talk. I told him that I do not want to mess thing up because just a small problem like that. However, he told me that he now wants a single time for himself, although he loves me, he just does not want to be in a rlts. It hurted me a lot, but I still acted calm and said It’s okay if that’s what he wants. He then even cried and hugged and kissed me. It took us a few hours to actually say goodbye to each other. The next day he texted me to talk about random things like normally but my best friend (who is also his best friend)got angry and she told him to stop it in an angry voice. I just know about that later. My ex also told me he’s sorry for contacting me, and he wants to meet for the last time to return things. I agreed. But then he did not showed up without saying anything.

After 1.5 months no contact, I called him to return things. We talked in a friendly way. When I saw him, I made a mistake to ask him if he still love me. He told me he would think about it and answer me. But he just keeps silent. I thought about our rlts a lot. But I still don’t know what the exact reason he wanted to break up. I thought he was hurt by my decision to break up (because he said he would never think I say it) and he accept it. After the break up, he still try to talk to me like normally and say he miss me in his private twitter account ( he doesn’t know that I know about it). But after that time of NC, I felt like he totally got rid of me and he is fine without me.

So after a week, I texted him to forget about that and just be friend. My ex doesn’t ignore me but he just answer what I ask him (in a friendly way), he doesn’t try to keep the conversation going. I am always the person who initiate the conversation (texting, 3 times). I acted normally and I didn’t mention about the rlts, just ask some normal questions. I don’t know if it’s true that when I text him I feel he is not happy because I had ignored him before because he mentioned my deleting his Insta acc and he said he was surprised that I even contact him again. When I text him, his way of reply is very weird, although still friendly. When we hang out with mutual friends together, he ignored me completely. So I decided to go on NC with him again.

And I also found out that he’s currently texting a girl. I think he has a thing with her, but it’s kind of weird because this girl is absolutely not his style. I will even feel it’s kinda irony if he date her. But anything can happen. I am sad because how can he move on that quickly? I know he really loved me when we were together, and I can’t believe now he likes another girl, who I don’t even want to be jealous with because she’s so different.

Actually I don’t care about them to much. I just want to hear some advice about: How long should I do NC?? Should I call him to return things now or wait for a longer time (because I don’t need it at the moment).. or wait until he make the first move?? My mind is really tired now.. I am also still confused about the reason he wanted to break up? Is that he really want his space, or he just angry because I insisted on breaking up and he felt that I don’t love him anymore? (He was unhappy because when I was away I didn’t text him much).
I know I have to focus on myself and I am doing that, but can’t help thinking about him a lot! I just want to talk to somebody about it so I know I’m doing things right.

@Robertizle I copied it here. There’s a problem with the email. So thanks for help!!

i will, please check!! Thank you @robertizle!