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be jokey, say something like no im devastated Ive lost 20 pounds and havent slept in 3 days … lol im kidding im fine, how’re you?
Be cool and collected, its not just men who need to be composed. It might be as simple as that.
My Friend, it seems we are quite similar in many ways, however she hasn’t blocked me and before I spoke to her about her new relationship, she was under the impression I already knew. But alas I never did, hence I blew up. But we calmed down and she was apologising to me soon after it all.
Blocking you is just a silly way of dealing with it my friend, it only surpresses it, if you do want to pursue a life with her, by all means do so but don’t hinder your life in the process.
You have got to the point where people should be, a lot of people will think as soon as they feel confident they should message their ex straight away, however, I think it is more sensible to wait until you know you have thrived then give it a go.
it also goes to say that you must change, but at the same time she must as well, and mean it. else it will go back to a downward spiral. but if not, you have moved on and reflected on your bad traits and made them good. I made one mistake that caused the whole breakup and it was one incident, and I made the effort to make sure it won’t happen again, whether it is with her or not. Cool and confident is the way to go.
Wish you all the best my friend!
My friend, a very similar situation has happened to me. unfortunately for the both of us, we arent with them, nor see them and therefore don’t know how they are thinking. But I know my ex is thinking of me, whether its in a negative or positive light.
It really doesn’t matter. It may very well be a rebound, it could end within the next couple of weeks, or in the next few months, maybe it will be a very successful relationship. You just don’t know. I would advise to get to the point where you can think with some composure and therefore look at whether or not you can work it out and whether or not it’s a good idea, then build yourself up. E. Hemingway said “There is nothing noble about being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self”. actively socialise and change. Don’t misconstrude what NC entails, you must change and must want to, either to win your ex back or to help with further relationships.
The social bit is as crucial as making change. If you socialise and even go out, speak to attractive people then you will bolster in confidence, you will also come to realise there are more than one “X” (Your ex’s name) and may even think that she’s not worth going back to.
My ex had got with some other guy about a week and a bit ago, I think it is doomed from the start, but I really don’t know that, but I feel like I can work it out with her, he will, of course object to my interaction, but hey, I want her and I will make my advances as not just me, not just me 2.0 but a true gentleman, I would treat him as my fellow man, but I am not going to let somebody I care about disappear from my life so easily. See that? It’s dedication, committment, confidence in my attitude. I have a long way to go, as you do. I highly recommend looking at other sources except this site. Above all, become confident and look at your faults and overcome them, and when it comes to contact, ALWAYS KEEP YOUR COOL.
If you want something, you will do everything to make it happen, but keep your momentum going, keep your life on track, and apart from your SO’s until you are truly committed, keep what you learned from this breakup for life. She may come back to you brother, but if you do want her just talk to her. you won’t make a monkeys difference if you say or do nothing.
