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I didn’t end up going and wont see him for at least another week and a half. I have been very calm and not needy or clingy at all but im worried it’s not enough…
Exactly! Just be positive and persevere, I believe in you!
Wouldn’t that be great! it’s so comforting to have people there for you that are going through similar things. Half of my friends have never had a boyfriend and the other half are still with their first serious boyfriends so none of them could really empathize with me.
That’s good! Just be yourself, be positive and happy , let him see how well you are doing. But don’t try too hard or you might come across as fake!
Don’t be discouraged if nothing changes right away, it may take a few more meetings. If you are friendly and positive there should be no reason for him to not want to hang out a second time, but if that does happen maybe he just needs some more time.
Don’t be too nervous just make it natural, Good luck!
He must just be confused about what he wants right now, and yes is very lost by the sounds of it… He broke up with you, doesn’t enjoy being single but doesn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone else meaning he still has feelings for you but something is holding him back. With my ex he is actually enjoying being single which doesn’t really help my situation.
Did you initiate or did he? All the best for your meeting!!!! I hope it turns out well for you or at least brings more clarity to the situation and how he is feeling.
The anytime soon comment is a good sign! Maybe he is just enjoying being single at the moment but the fact he said that is really encouraging that he can see it happening again maybe in the future.
That must be really frustrating that he will only contact you regarding other guys but at least it shows that he still does care and it is better then no contact at all I guess…
I hope the meeting goes really well for you!
Oh I see now, sorry I didn’t really understand before!!! You could still take the meeting as an opportunity to show your ex the positive changes you have made in your life, let him see how well you are doing because that is attractive. Have you met up at all since the break up or would this be the first time?
The fact he messaged you about that guy you added still gives me hope that he is interested because he is still protective of you, and that must mean something.
If you are 98% sure it would work between you then why would it be a lost cause. It would take a lot of patience and compromise but honestly it comes down to if you think that this guy and your relationship with him is worth it. If it is then try! It will be really hard but would it be harder to lose him?
I was trying to do NC but my ex kept messaging me… i’m only a week into NC and he has messaged me three times, once the day after the break up then last night and again this morning. I am feeling the same as you, i’m worried he is satisfied with where he has got me and doesn’t want a relationship.
The key to getting him to chase you is supposed to be in the no contact, it was really working for me. I haven’t contacted him myself once and have posted pictures up on social media of me looking happy, this seemed to effect him because he messaged me soon after. But now i’m stuck like you… how do we get them to want a relationship again.
Isn’t him wanting to meet up with you him chasing you in a way?
If you honestly 100% think that you could make it work and you really love him then what is the harm in trying, but a 40 hour a week job plus uni sound crazy and also very important. If you are going to try again with him make sure you don’t let it come in the way of your job or your school because you are so intent to make it work this time.
It seems like you guys were really great together and it is unfair that you had to break up because of these circumstances. I think you need to talk to him after the NC and if you are both willing to make it work then go for it! I know I would.
During this NC don’t let yourself sit around feeling lonely, like you said join some clubs and make some friends. Friends are very important and super helpful in these situations, I don’t know what I would have done if I didn’t have my friends during my break up. Make this time of NC positive and all about you, work on making yourself happier.
I really hope everything works out for you, good luck!
Yeah I think that’s the part i’m struggling with too, after all the time apart and then the messaging how do I get my ex to actually want a relationship again…
He is obvioulsy interested considering he was the one that initiated the meeting up. Maybe after you guys meet up you’ll have a better idea of the situation and what he wants. To make him actually want a relationship I guess you’d have to meet up a few times and make him remember the good times in your relationship so that he actually misses being in the relationship and not just you.
