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@amcee so happy for you! I hope you can make it long lasting 🙂 How are both your parents reacting?
I’m not as lucky as you are. But I’m better in general. My ex got in a new relationship in February. Not even having the guts to tell me himself. A mutual friend told me. I got into therapy to work on me and through my insecurities. I realized that my ex, as much as I love him will probably never really want to work on himself. So while still sometimes hoping, I do not count on him coming around and I decided to move on.
I even found a really great guy and we were dating for nearly 4 months now. But my insecurities killed it, I think. I’m holding back a lot. Being afraid showing too many emotions will overwhelm the guy, wanting too much and getting hurt again. So he ended it saying there was nothing wrong, nothing he could point his finger at, but a feeling is missing. Of course it was not just me, he is not completely settled himself, his priorities are definitely not on a relationship at the moment. (See a pattern there? ;)) It’s sad, because we got along so well, but maybe I just have to work more on myself, to be able to bring this positive feeling back into a relationship.
@send_me_your_memes thank you. i was kinda wondering where the good successful stories are. I do think it is good and important posting these too. It is our all goal, isn’t it? and i guess everyone is happy for people where it works out!
Thank you for answering. I know there are good and bad days. Just wanted to know, what you do, when these bad times come rushing in – just give in and cry? Or try keeping strong?
Yes, I know, NC would be best. He still needs to get his stuff out of the apartment (today he will come by). There is still stuff in his dads storage of me. Since we lived together for nearly 2 years, it’s just not that easy starting the no contact, for there is still some stuff to discuss. we keep it to a minimum though.
@Seth12 You did not give any background, making it a bit hard to understand the whole situation. Why did you two break up in the first place?
If she broke up with you and now doesn’t give you any space although you told her you need it, I’m sorry, but it sounds as if she is using you. You telling her that you love her is good for her ego. But what do you get out of it? If you want to get your mind straight, you have every right to do so and she should respect that if she likes you.
If you want her back, I do understand though, that you are afraid, that you might destroy something bye not talking to her. But the way she is treating you doesn’t sound right… Maybe give some more info to understand. Did she say she still wanna be with you? Has she still feelings for you?
@amcee wow, I just read through your story. that’s a lot of ups and downs. and i guess the religious / family situation does make it hard. since my family is not much religious and very open minded, i never knew such an impact.
i hope you stay strong. and that the both of you may find a way for each other. as lovers, as friends… who knows what time will bring, right? Are you still in contact?
