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Patricia,
Well I gave her a call. I think she blocked my number but I wasn’t sure. I was curious so I disguised my number and I left a message. I said basically I was still curious about her explanation, and even if it’s something she thinks I don’t want to hear, I’ll listen. I also said I wouldn’t get mad, and explained that I should never have reacted the way I did. I asked her to call back.
It is hard. Things ended so abruptly and I feel like one human mistake ruined my chances. Thank you anyway
Patricia,
I’m not exactly sure, I got some mixed messages. She was very busy with school and we had some talks about boundaries, but mostly it ended up being misunderstandings. Like she would text me after I had gone to bed and she would think I was being petty and not texting her back. Stuff like that was usually resolved.
I’m don’t exactly know if I made her feel secure in the relationship. I talked about exes probably more than I should have, and I actually went on a date with her friend before we ever met. This was usually a joke between us though…maybe I gave her the impression that I was a player. The night before we broke up she told me that I didn’t give her good enough compliments, and that I should think of her more than just her body. I had actually told her that I loved her for the first time about a week before the breakup, and we had an argument because he didn’t think I was being authentic, and I had to explain that I was.
Anyway, those were some of the issues that got between us. To be honest, I think I was a better communicator than her, and I was always willing to listen to her…so it’s frustrating to try and figure it out.
It’s been almost three weeks, I’ll give her a call soon. I’m just not exactly sure what my message should be at this point. Wanting closure? Or wanting to talk? I wouldn’t get back with her unless I thought we could actually resolve those issues. Thanks for reading!
Patricia12,
Thank you for the advice, that gives me hope :). I’ll follow up once I finally do reach out. How do I figure out why she broke up with me? I have a couple of ideas about why she did it so abruptly, but I don’t know for sure. In my mind, the only way of knowing for sure is to ask her. Thanks!
