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lol even his best friend told me to never get back with him, and to block him after he returned my money. I stopped talking to him since. I cant believe someone who told me i love you within a week of our relationship, then who said one day he wants to marry me after 5 months, and wanted to get engaged after 10 months did this to me.
I wonder if the blowjob is a factor, because he said girls at work offered, and he blamed me, saying he told them he had a girlfriend, like it was my fault for being his girlfriend. but i have been looking online, and i see that many women refuse to give blowjobs. it isn’t just me. and i am no less of a woman to refuse to give one. I had no problem turning him on. just kissing him would get him full blown hard. I am the type of woman who only engages in traditional sex. that is one of my values, and no guy will pressure me to go against it.Please be strong ok? Don’t let feelings take actions, let your self-love take it. That is what I am doing. You don’t deserve to be used, stressed by someone, and have doubts planted into you. From experience, the no contact rule works. I did it on my ex and within 2 days he would do anything to get me back. Good luck and best wishes to you too.
He says he didn’t cheat on me, not even once, but his friends and family confirmed my suspicion from the things that they said. He told his friend he broke up with me a month ago, and started going out with this girl from new years. And he asked for a break on dec 30, 2015, saying I love you, and on dec 31, 2015 he said i see you as a friend. He lied about many things, so I don’t believe him anymore. The connection that we shared was unique, and I know he won’t find it in another girl, even if she looks like me and has my short hair. Sometimes we would have tears in our eyes just by looking at each other, thats how deep our connection was. I saw every feeling, every thought in me mirrored in his beautiful face.
Thank you for making me see the light. I will always love my ex, even after the way he treated me before the break up. You know he would pressure me soo much to give him a blowjob, to the point where I had tears in my eyes and couldn’t look at him, so he wouldnt see the tears. He would push my head down, and i felt so humiliated. I said many times that I can not do it, it is not my thing, but he still pressured. After he asked for a break, I couldnt eat solid foods for 2 weeks. Couldnt even drink from a bottle. Yesterday, I was able to finally eat a meal and I am so proud of myself.not just cheating, but pretty sure an affair while we were together. he tells his friends he started going out with her on new year’s and that’s 2 days after breaking up with me. and he lied and told them he broke up with me a month ago. and like i said i think they are living together. should i move on?
but he cheated on me, even tho he denies it. his mom and his friends confirmed my suspicion. is it bad to want him back?
I honestly don’t know what to do. I will never forget the way he made me feel with his words, and touch. he was first everything, from love, to kiss, to touch.
but he did lie to me about many important things, withheld information that could have saved our relationship, and cheated on me.
His friend told me that once a liar is always a liar. I do believe that. But i don;t understand why he cheated on me. I thought i could forgive cheating, but fidelity is the most important thing to me in a relationship.
I was so faithful to him. I never took rides from guys. instead i called my dad. when i could see that a guy friend is interested in me, i quickly told them i am with the man i will be marrying in June. Any guy coming on to me, I let him know about it to build an honest relationship.
we both have attractive personalities that the opposite sex naturally gets attracted to. but i have the looks and body advantage more than him, so more people wants me. but that doeant mean i give into temptation right away. i know who i am for, and i saved myself for him. he took that away from me, the way i see it. so i dont know what to do. I feel dirty and used :'(I think you should just follow the no contact rule. obviously he isn’t strong enough to follow it. this will show that you will not be forever available to him.
i think men take us women for granted, they know it is much harder for us to move on, and keep us as Plan B to go back to.
Just saying hi is ok. answering texts like you guys are acquaintances is ok. but talking about sex and stuff, i think violates the no contact rule.
anyway, your situation is better than mine. at least he still wants you around. my ex asked for a break on dec 30, 2015, saying i love you, and on dec 31, 2015 he says i only see you as a friend. A week later he moves out of his parents house and is kissing a girl who could be mistaken to be me. he wanted a break from me after after acting cold towards me for 2 weeks. im pretty sure he is living with her now, and this is the girl im pretty sure he cheated on me with for about a month before he asked for a break. i can see the guilt and read through the lines of our conversation. his friend confirmed my suspicion. i did beg and plead but i realize I cant fix anything because once a liar and cheater, there is no guarantee that he wont do it again. this is the guy that liked me 2 years, was in a relationship with me for about a year, told me i love you within a week of dating, said one day he wants to marry me after 5 months of dating, and wanted to get engaged after 10 months of dating.I think you have a chance because he still wants you and isn’t seeing or moving someone in to his house. i think giving him space will make him realize how he is missing out on quality time without you. while you are giving him space, focus on yourself. find happiness. when you are happy and fun around him, he will feel strong feelings of attractions to you, and i bet he will beg for forgiveness and ask to have you back 🙂
good luck and i hope everything works out for you 🙂
