Dori

Hi there,

I think in this case, he still loves you and have attraction towards you. I Guess you need to go with the flow. Be understanding for him. Don’t bring up about commitment & relationships yet. And don’t always initiate the first conversation. Let him miss you when you are not contacting him. And go out & spend time with your friends. Keep yourself busy. When he asks you out, don’t be available too much. Give your time to friends & family. By doing that he will realise you have your own happy life which will make him more attractive towards you. I think the more you don’t care about commitment, the likely you will get closer to it. Can’t guarantee this way will work or not but it’s just my opinion. Cheers!

Hi,

Thanks for joining our conversation! I think we all have to go through NC whether we want our ex back or not. Cuz is the only cure for healing a broken heart. Yes NC is very hard but what I learned is that even after NC, there will be a period of time that you need to work on for “re-attraction”. That part is kinda scary & challenging. My NC gonna over soon and still freaking out what to do.

The challenge is not easy. Especially when we are still friends on Facebook. He keep posting his activities. & He keep sending his pictures in group chat. (Yes we have group chat with common friends. I tried to leave the group but other friends complained. So I stay there. Silently without replaying anything) I think he is trying to get into my head. It’s partially working. So I decided to keep myself away from Facebook by spending more times on forums. So here I met you. How’s your status going?

Yay! Nice to know you here. So I guess you are in NC as well? Have you just started or which day are you in? I listed down good & bad things about dating him. It helps me to decide whether he’s worth one more try. I want to have a relationship with him back but I want a better version of it (like an upgrade!) Even though NC is generally last up to 30 days, I broke it a couple of times & restart again. Mayb having a break is a good thing, if you ever get him back, you will get a better relationship than before as you know how to improve it this time. If you don’t get him back, it isn’t not meant to be then. At least better than continuing the relationship with doubts without taking a break.

Not much of advice but maybe you keep on going out with him. Like going to places there will bring your old happy memories when you were together. Don’t tell him you want him back yet. I think you need to plant the idea of you want to get back together instead of telling him verbally. I know it’s a bit difficult to play mind games. By planting him good old memories might make him think about giving yout relationship second chance. Once you get the signal, that you desire, ask him to break up his current rebound relationship. Hope it helps!

I don’t have much advice but what I think is that loving too much hurt sometimes. I did love my ex a lot that I will do everything for him with or without him asking. Maybe he still in love with you but he can’t stand for being loved too much. That’s what push him away. I was been there too. I’m still following Kelvin’s steps currently. Not much of a progress yet as I just started but yeah the first few weeks are like hell. I want to text & call him & tell him how much I love him & wanna get back together but I control myself, cope with the pain & nightmares. I’m not sure how will it comes from his side after NC but currently at least I’m recovering a bit. I can eat, I can focus on work, I can crack jokes with my friends, hang out with them, it’s like getting back my old life before him. At least what I can suggest is learn to love yourself first before loving someone. Wish you luck, & wish myself luck too. Lol. Hope this helps.