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I understand what you’re saying… I’ve tried to move on, been on dates etc but I’m not having any luck and whenever I try to move on something stops it. It’s like the universe isn’t letting me give up! Or maybe that’s just my own mentality.
He’s actually been really friendly to me the last couple of shifts, which is confusing because I think things are getting more serious with the new girl, and yet me and him are getting along better, even though he was being distant with me when they were starting out.
I dont know whether hes just happy in general and has moved on to the point where he can be friendly to me again tbh. But I see him so often, every time I see him I’m crushed.He started dating someone else… he hasnt put the relationship anywhere on social media, but he brought her into the pub on my shift. I was away at the time which he didnt know about, so a colleague told me.
He also got a new dog a couple of weeks ago which he named Harley. That was our in joke, I was Harley Quinn and always called him Mr. J. He never ever uses his Instagram, hasnt done in over a year, but I follow him on there and he posted the dog on there with its name. He didnt put it on Facebook, which I’m no longer on and which he uses fairly regularly.
I dont know if it’s all a coincidence or if he’s doing it for my attention… and I dont know how to react or what to do.
I know he treated me badly and I should forget him, but I still have feelings for him. We had circumstances stopping us making a proper go of it, and I just want a real chance to do that. I don’t know if that’s possible, or how to go about itI suppose you are right… I do want a relationship with him, I’ve always said that, but I appreciate he has his parents to deal with so I’ve also said all along I’m fine with just being friends if that isnt what he wants, and up until him upsetting me I thought that’s what we were because we were getting along really well until that point, and once I apologised I thought we were just friends again because we were getting along fine, then he suddenly started with the coldness. I really dont know what his issue is, he’s acting like he’s bitter about me dumping him but he was the one that didnt want to take it further so he has nothing to be bitter about, I really dont get it. Maybe he was hoping I would always be open for sex, but he has other options for that so I dont see why that would be an issue. I just want to restore the friendship, we used to have a great laugh and got along so well, I would talk to him about issues with my ex etc and we were close until this all started
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Well my sister has known him for years as well and shes completely confused by his behaviour as he is a really nice guy and she doesnt know where this is all coming from. I was shocked by it as well. Some of my other friends think he just wants sex and maybe he’s become hostile because he’s realised he isn’t going to get it from me.
It was all going great at the start and he told me he wanted a relationship and was keen to meet me, albeit quite pushy for sex, until he found out his parents were sick and that was when the off and on hot and cold stuff began. I tried to be there and support him through it but he completely shut down. I’m also a bit worried he might have thought I would eventually leave him or not take him seriously because my head was a bit puzzled at the start and I was possibly giving him mixed signals myself, although I didn’t mean to. I did tell him I loved him when I was drunk but he freaked out over that when we were sober so I just said I didn’t mean it like that, I just meant I cared about him. In hindsight I wish I’d told him I’d truth because it probably seemed like I was pushing him away or only after sex myself.
Honestly though we got on so well as friends, even after our fling stopped we were getting along like a house on fire and I felt great about the situation, when I invited him for a coffee I did mean as friends, I didnt specify that because I thought it was obvious but maybe he took it the wrong way as that was when the hostility began. But I honestly dont know why he’s being so cold with me now when I’ve made it clear a few times I’m fine with being friends and I just want us to get along, which I thought we were doing but he’s started being obviously cold with me and I don’t know what the issue is.
