Clarissa.L

Hi Lynn

I’m in midst of one of these breakup and I understand how we need someone to talk to sometimes.

I think as pointed out many times, the focus of the NC rules is for is to find ourselves. Sometimes we can get too emotionally attached to someone or a feeling. The NC period allows us to think through whether the relationship is what we want.

Different people reacts to NC differently. My first BF, we used 4-mth breaking up, mostly with me going back to beg him. Same thing, I went to his grandmother’s wake while he totally skipped mine. After 4mth, I gave up. NC happened because my heart went dead. And when I randomly msged him asking him for an address of an eatery weeks later, he asked if I’m on a date. Eventually he asked, “is it too late?”, to which I answered “yes”. I’ve never been more thankful to have ended that relationship.

So babe, only you will know. You have been through 1month plus of NC. I hope you’ve made some positive changes to your life. At your most confident peak, write a note to yourself, you’ll find your answer in that letter. And when u slip into a low, read that letter again.

Cheers!