Brandonh

Hey, it has been quite awhile since the last post. I have been doing extremely well. Although I still think of my ex now and then, I feel like I’ve move forward and grown so much. At times, I even doubt myself on why I should get her back, has she changed? or will I be able to move forward with her despiste the things she’s done.

Anyways, on the 25th of may she texted me. exactly a month since I started no contact. She asked about whether I’m collecting my shirt. I replied yes but said it’s not urgent. She didn’t reply afterwards and I left it at that. I also saw that she mentioned how 2020 hasn’t been going well on her social media. But I didn’t say anything or reach out to her.

2 days later, she texted me again asking about my internship company that I worked at. This was really random and I’m pretty sure she remembers what company I worked at. I figured she’s either confused on whether should she start a convo or just wanted to see if I would continue the convo. I just replied where I worked at and that was it, she didn’t reply and I did not continue.

And today, she texted me again. This time, she sent me a screenshot of her convo with her new “bf”. Of him begging and pleading that he will do better and make her feel loved and comparing himself to me saying he will be better than me. She sent that saying “lmao bro this guy is comparing himself to you”.

I’m guessing that they probably split because she realised a rebound wasn’t working, which is why she started to text me again. So how should I reply to the recent text? I’m not sure how much attention I should be giving to her right now.

I see. I understand that was a bad decision. It’s enough that she appreciated it though. Adding my name would shorten our interaction a lot, I did not think of it this way. Will be starting no contact again!

However, seeing her response I’m not sure how no contact would really affect her behaviour towards me. Not enough time has passed right?

I sent flowers and a short note and she posted on her story saying thanks for sending these flowers. I then received a text from her asking if I was the one that sent it and I said yea. She said “thanks, received” kinda coldly and ask why I didn’t put my name down. I replied, “I figured that you wouldn’t wanna see my name and that we still need space and time apart, so yea. She replied, “ok, thanks. Very pretty”. And I said “I’m glad you liked it”.

I took this chance to tell her that I bought a gift for her a few weeks ago (before no contact) so that she isn’t suprised again and thinks I’m constantly sending her stuff which breaks no contact in her mind. The convo carried on for a few texts with me just responding to her, with the same level of energy (a little cold like strangers). I then quickly ended off saying I had to get back to work.

Did I break no contact? I didn’t reach out and didn’t mention about us except for the reason I kept anonymous.

I’m really lost on what to do. I have reflected on all the problems in the relationship and come to terms with it, however I feel that there could be so much more. And how she told me 2 months back that she was not ready to jump back into a relationship, that maybe we could understand each other given time.

I’m unsure whether I should reach out with a letter at the end of NC, will it not reset my absence from her?
And should I contact her about getting my clothes from her in advance?

Thank you for the reply. To be honest I was losing faith and wavering as my friends and her friends were telling me they she had already moved on with the new guy, I realise that I have to be confident and trust that our relationship was a meaningful one and not dwell on it.

Yes I’m 21 and she’s 20, we are still young and that’s why I see so much potential in growth. I will trust no contact and continue to better myself in time to attract her back!