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I see. I understand that was a bad decision. It’s enough that she appreciated it though. Adding my name would shorten our interaction a lot, I did not think of it this way. Will be starting no contact again!
However, seeing her response I’m not sure how no contact would really affect her behaviour towards me. Not enough time has passed right?
@Brandonh Both of you would have to be willing to change the way you interact with each other. Just start no contact again and try not to overthink everything!
Congratulations to you for graduation:)
Could I ask an honest question. I honestly feel that she has completely moved on and that she actually monkey branched off me into a rebound relationship. I forgot about this fact but, we broke up on 13 feb. And during the times I was stalking I found out they started talking online around early february before we broke up. All these signs show that she monkey branched with me and when we broke up she hang around until she was sure of the new guy before letting me go completely.
I learnt of the difference between a rebound vs monkey branching recently. Could you share your thoughts on this? I was doing really well until I remembered that they started talking while we were still together and I got cheated on in the past which honestly is messing me up inside.
@Brandonh After you broke up with her on Feb 13th, you two met up to try to resolve the issues, but you told her that you’re still thinking of whether or not you want to get back with her. Apparently you didn’t apologize for your part in the breakup at that time.. A few days later you went on a date with her and she said she had no intention of getting back. You two argued and you called her names. Then you stayed in contact with her and apparently apologized and said you would change, but you didn’t. You also kept saying goodbye and yet came back.
Apparently you were doing things to upset her for some time prior to the breakup and there was way too much arguing. This was an unhappy toxic relationship for both of you! It’s immature and disrespectful to call someone names! Never do it again..
I don’t know if she was monkey branching or not, but maybe she was and for a fairly good reason. Try not to overthink if she did this or not, just make self-improvements!
Read up on anger management; over time and as you get older, you will learn how to properly interact with partner and learn better communication skills.
Continue no contact!
Hey, it has been quite awhile since the last post. I have been doing extremely well. Although I still think of my ex now and then, I feel like I’ve move forward and grown so much. At times, I even doubt myself on why I should get her back, has she changed? or will I be able to move forward with her despiste the things she’s done.
Anyways, on the 25th of may she texted me. exactly a month since I started no contact. She asked about whether I’m collecting my shirt. I replied yes but said it’s not urgent. She didn’t reply afterwards and I left it at that. I also saw that she mentioned how 2020 hasn’t been going well on her social media. But I didn’t say anything or reach out to her.
2 days later, she texted me again asking about my internship company that I worked at. This was really random and I’m pretty sure she remembers what company I worked at. I figured she’s either confused on whether should she start a convo or just wanted to see if I would continue the convo. I just replied where I worked at and that was it, she didn’t reply and I did not continue.
And today, she texted me again. This time, she sent me a screenshot of her convo with her new “bf”. Of him begging and pleading that he will do better and make her feel loved and comparing himself to me saying he will be better than me. She sent that saying “lmao bro this guy is comparing himself to you”.
I’m guessing that they probably split because she realised a rebound wasn’t working, which is why she started to text me again. So how should I reply to the recent text? I’m not sure how much attention I should be giving to her right now.
Hey Brandon!
I am in the exact same boat, ex actually came back to me after 1 month of no contact back in Jan, I was extremely desperate so I jumped right back into the exact relationship, the relationship was very short lived, we got back together by the 20th Jan, and he said he doesn’t want a relationship no more around the beginning of March.
I pleaded a friends with benefits deal, that only lasted a week before he started pulling away again cause I was ‘acting like his girlfriend’, then I pulled more ‘tricks’ including giving him a lot of gifts, offered to do his groceries shopping while he was in quarantine(I am still working)etc, our ‘situationship’ were great at one point for a week or two (mid/end March), but I want a relationship and a future while he doesn’t, I did my final attempt on the 5th of April asking where he sees us in 3 months, he said ‘friends’. I told him I won’t be able to be friends and I would need him to leave me alone for me to heal if he doesn’t want anything serious, and he agreed.
After 3 weeks of strict no contact, I found out he was on a dating app, I casually reached out tried to catch up but he was clearly playing games, the conversation lasted 2 days on and off but he seemed very much disinterested.
I am back in indefinite no contact now, today is also my second day. I also feel somewhat less anxious. Keep us posted with your situation!! It sounds like there s a lot of passion. I would be keen to think she s gonna come back to you soon!
@Brandonh She hasn’t changed for the better. The screenshot convo with her boyfriend shows she’s trying to mess with your emotions. Do not reply or comment on that, but send a text asking her to send your shirt through the mail!
You’ve been doing well and moving forward. You deserve to be happy. You deserve a relationship with someone who is kind and will treat you much better!
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