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Hrmmmm okay everyone else please give your opinions on this because maybe I’m just being all judgmental on the guy… But does anyone else think he might be getting a kick out of saying no to KD1988? Just by the things he says and how if she ignores him then he always tries to keep the conversation going and stuff like that?
@KD1988 Aw I’m sorry, that really sucks 🙁 Keeping yourself busy definitely helps but I don’t think you can distract yourself forever, I guess we have to deal with what’s going on eventually… It’s the mornings that get me, I wake up and I just start thinking about things and arrrrgh…
The dreams don’t help! I keep having dreams where I get everything I want back, then all of a sudden she turns around and says “Actually, I don’t love you.” Or something like that.
I think we need to accept the possibility that we might not get what we want… I think it’ll get easier once we do that. It doesn’t mean we’re giving up though! 🙂
@pineappleblue Yeah, it’s something that used to bug my ex about me too… And actually I did feel more confident when I was with my ex, at least when things were good. I think that was simply because I felt like even if I did put myself out there and things went wrong that I always had that support from her, you know? Just now with the way she treated me towards the end and then the breakup I kinda feel like I’ve gone back a few steps confidence wise…
But hey, I do have really good days where I feel like I’m doing just fine and I feel good about myself etc etc… I certainly don’t feel I need her or anyone really to be confident in myself, but that support is nice, you know? Either way it’ll work out 😛
I think my problem is I don’t have a lot of confidence in myself, you know? I think that’s what makes me shy and quiet heh.
Oh well, it’s like you said, it’s something I need to work on and unless I move into a cave in the mountains and never see ANYONE I have plenty of opportunities to work on it 🙂
Yeah I know that feeling too… Any attempt to talk to my ex seems to be met by a stone wall heh. It doesn’t seem like forward progress is even possible at the moment…
Well see the main thing I’m trying to work on is my confidence, and I’m a very quiet sort of person. I’m not the loud aggressive type at all. I think it’s gonna take a long time for me haha!
Yeah I’m not having a great day myself… Just really frustrated that the changes I’m trying to make to become a better person aren’t happening as fast as I would like! But hey, no one ever said that changing yourself was easy!
Yeah I know what you mean about this front too… It’s easy to stop thinking about things and tell myself for a while that I’ve moved on and I’m fine about things etc etc etc… Because I don’t think I could get out of bed in the morning if I didn’t kinda push my emotions about my ex and our breakup aside every so often, but I guess we have to face how we feel eventually huh?
But the thing is this is all a part of the process… And we are all doing well and we are all making progress. I do feel though that it’s a long process though… But we’re all making little steps towards a point where we don’t have to pretend anymore!
Ummm… I think I would say just leave it… I mean it’s already going to be in his head that he was supposed to be there with you, not this friend… Why not keep quiet and let him think that you’re not thinking about it? Know what I mean? 😛
AWww I’m sorry to hear that 🙁
Maybe you’re just not ready to date yet? I know I’m definitely not. I almost said yes to a date the other day but I had this weird feeling, like I was cheating almost! It was really strange. Makes no sense I know, but that’s how it felt…
I guess you just have to keep doing what you’re doing… Working on yourself and healing… I know it’s frustrating but you are making progress 🙂
Well let me see… I would guess that it’s been about 6 weeks since my ex and I broke up and at the moment I think I’m in a similar place to Pineapple to be honest… Every day that goes by I find myself wanting to talk to her less and less… Like she said, my desire for her is fading fast.. I just think about the way she treated me and I know I deserve better!
Basically I’m at a point where I feel like if we have any chance, she’s got to contact me… And then she will have to do a LOT to prove that she’s worth another chance… And if it ever gets to the point where it feels like she’s starting to push me away and starting to treat me like she did again then I’d end the relationship myself, because I REALLY don’t want to go through what she put me through again…
So yeah, that’s nice isn’t it 😛
Yeah, haven’t heard many updates from you two 🙂 I was just about to ask how you two were myself!
Hrm she did leave me her favourite shirt, I guess I could contact her about that and see if she wants it back…
Is that a little obvious though? 😛
Aw thanks for the support guys 🙂 But what do you think I should do once I’m feeling ready or enough time has passed or whatever? Or should I be waiting for her to make contact? What do you think? 🙂
