Alisson

Hi everyone!

I’ve been following Patrick’s and Charlie’s conversations as well as a few others and I decided to write something for everyone, hoping it can help you out in some way, shape, or form. There’s one thing I need to say; IF you follow the 30 days of “No Contact” and work on yourself for those 30 days, things will work out for the better. Let me share my story with you.

My boyfriend and I were together for almost 2 years when one day my boyfriend decides to break things up. I was devastated and torn into pieces. I thought I was never going to have to hear those words come out of his mouth ever, but I did. So what now? I came across this website that shared the 5 step plan and I was determined and convinced I was going to follow it. Therefore, I immediately began the “No Contact” rule and started working on myself. Within 2 days of NC he started contacting me through texts and phone calls. That continued for the full 30 days. He would try to get a hold of me about three times a week which was rare because before we broke up, I wouldn’t hear from him for days and now with NC he was contacting me so right away I started seeing success with this 5 step plan which helped me not to respond to any of his texts and not answer any of his phone calls either.

In those 30 days of NC, I NEEDED to work on myself since I was determined I was going to win him back. In those 30 days, I was able to have a clear understanding of why he broke up with me (which I don’t blame him for), my attitude problems, as well as some small things that just kept piling up cause we never took the time to fix them right away.Once I realized my mistakes and errors, I was determined on fixing them especially knowing that it wouldn’t cost me a thing and knowing I’d be benefiting from it. Once my puzzle was solved, I was feeling great. I was great emotionally, physically, and mentally.

The 30 days were up. I was anticipating for this day to come because not only did I miss him dearly but I also was excited for him to see the positive, smiling, fun me. Once again, sticking to the 5 step plan, I decided to write him a letter. In that letter I wrote how I accepted the breakup, to apologize for my inappropriate behavior, and shared with him some new things that happened in those 30 days without giving him too much detail. I concluded the letter by writing “I would love to share with you the great news and plans with much more detail and it would be nice to catch up. If you are willing to, meet me at (Restaurant) at 7PM. Ill be there!” I ended up going to his home at 1am to leave the letter on his car. It was a little risque but let me tell you, it was well worth it!

By my surprise, I get a text message from him at 10 am. The text message said “Hey, I’m sorry but I wont be able to meet up with you at 7 because I have dinner plans already and I would love for you to join me instead.” Dinner turned out be great. He picked me up and we went to our favorite restaurant and we met up with some of his cousins. Although him and I couldn’t really talk about “us” at dinner cause of the family there, we had such a great time eating and laughing just like the good old times. After dinner, we decided to come to my house so we can talk. The talk went great as well, we talked about the past as well as what we expect and our plans for the future. He actually shared with me that seeing the letter on his car at 3am (he goes to work at 4am everyday) was the best thing that happened to him in those 30 days we didn’t see each other or talk to each other so that was a plus. He actually ended up sleeping over because we were just talking for hours and hours.

To make long story short, he mad us official again on March 18th 2015 and since then our communication is stronger than before and were holding on. It has not always been easy since then, we’ve had our falls and our little discussions but now, we talk them through and we work them out together as a team. Thankfully, although its barley going to be a month since we’ve been back together, he has noticed the changes I’ve made and thankfully, that has just gotten us closer and our trust is even stronger. Yes, I’m still working on myself as well as working with him in this relationship, that’s something that will have continue forever because I am not perfect and neither is he, but the point is we’re working together.

Now, we have a lot of functions that we both have planned together like this weekend we’re heading out to Laughlin for my sister in laws birthday, then we have his brothers birthday, then we have 24 hours of Disneyland, then we have his cousins graduation and graduation party in Texas, and much more. Yes, its only been a month but that just proves that if you follow the 5 step plan thoroughly, at the end you’ll see the rewards and they are priceless. Remember, at the end it will all work out for the better.

– Alisson