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In the country I am in, almost everyone uses a certain social media app, and she deleted me from it recently (for the second time). No one really uses the phone here anymore. It still lets you send short messages and friend requests right now.
Any potential cheating is coming from her. I mentioned some ex boyfriend guy (?!) a couple times now.
Let’s go through the timeline one more time.
-We had a great relationship from about November 2019 – July 2020, so about 9 months. It was very fun and romantic. I mostly explained it in my first post.
-She woke up one day and started acting weird around late July/early August, or actually probably before that, but that’s really when it started to be a problem. She lashed out at me even though I didn’t really do anything wrong, and deleted me for the first time on the main app people use to communicate here.
-We had no contact for all of August and about half of September.
-Then we talked again in late September/early October, and she told me that she moved back to her hometown about an hour south of here. She wasn’t being terribly nice, but it was good to talk to her again. She ended up deleting me again. I may have sent too many messages. Maybe I should have taken it a little slower. I was trying to address the things she was saying though. She is basically making up nonsense and trying to justify her behavior, such as disappearing, moving back, lashing out at me, downplaying our relationship, etc.
I don’t have an easy way to get a hold of her right now. It’s really disappointing because we were building up a nice life together this past year or so. We were saving up money, starting to share her car, planning trips together, had a bunch of really romantic dates, etc etc. The chemistry was very good, and we were connecting really well.
I do have her Facebook (that’s not what people use here) but she rarely gets on. I sent her a nice, medium-length message on it a while back.
I don’t really know what to do at the moment other than to wait a couple more weeks maybe again now, then try to send some messages through the main app that people use here, add her back, and that kind of stuff.
Does anyone know what to do? You are right that she seems depressed, is reacting badly to the dying family member, etc etc. She’s basically ruining our relationship, taking me on a rollercoaster ride, etc etc. It’s not fair because things were going very well and we were having a really good time together until recently.
Well, I don’t really know what more to say. We’re not in the US if that helps. Things have been stricter here as far as COVID-19 regulations go etc.
We had a great relationship for about 9 months, and then about 3 months ago, she woke up and started acting like a different person. She used to be cheerful and passionate about me and her career and stuff, but all of a sudden she was unstable, withdrawn, etc etc and eventually moved back down to her hometown.
She seems to just be burning out with her work even though she used to love it, she’s reacting badly to a family member dying, she is the partial owner of a side business that had some problems this year because of the virus but it seems to be doing a little better now, etc etc. I tried to be nice, but it seems like she’s making a mountain out of a molehill. That’s all just normal stuff that happens in life sometimes, and we’re all having a hard year because of COVID-19 etc.
No no, anything bad I mentioned was within the last 3 months. That includes deleting me on social media and adding me back and now deleting me again… All of that kind of stuff.
Yes, I went out on some dates recently. Well, this website tells you to for one thing. I also mentioned that she seems to be walking her dog with an old boyfriend?! Who knows what else they might be doing. I don’t know what’s going on on that front exactly. She seems to want some space, and neither of us contacted each other for a while. So of course I have a right to go out on some dates if she’s going to do stuff like that and is in a different location right now. I did my best with her, but she just isn’t communicating well lately, and she’s lashing out at me, and we’re not even in the same city right now. The dates haven’t been that much fun for the most part though.
We were talking more again lately, but then she deleted me on the main platform we use again. So I don’t know what to do. According to this site, I’m supposed to wait at least 2 weeks or so to do anything.
I would love to go down and visit her in her hometown, walk around in the historical area that I mentioned, check on her, try to cheer her up a little, etc.
She’s basically imploding right now and ruining our relationship, which has been very hard for me the past few months.
