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You should not delete her off social media, block or anything of that sort. It shows you are not able to handle the break up. It shows you are angry. It does not show maturity.
Please remain calm during this time. Try meditating. Play a sport. Get tired, Rest. Enjoy sleep. She is hurt right now and if you wish to make it worse then keep doing things to attract attention but if you wish things to get better then DO NOT try to grab her attention right now.
Let her cool down on her own in a couple of weeks. You can also work on improving yourself till then.
Good luck!
@amcee Oh I delted her of social media the day of the argument haven’t blocked her just delted
Do you think she’s hurt?
She did say I’m really sad that I don’t want to be friends I said no I dint want just friends I want it as it was
So that’s why she’s gone away to think. She knows of she comes back and just want friends only she’s lost me for good
It is okay, sometimes we do things in anger on social media. Its not too much damage but try to doing so again in the future. Also, dont say words like now or never. They might take it negatively and wouldnt mind losing a person who instead of showing emotional support gives ultimatums.
Whether you want her as a friend or not is your personal choice but giving such ultimatums can only work temporary, if at all.
@amcee Yeah I wasn’t trying to give her that more so telling her what I want as us just to continue or if she just wants friends that isn’t for me
So she said she’ll go and have a think for a few days and if her mind changes she’ll be in touch.
@amcee this is odd me and the girl are not friends on fb. I delted her so can’t see what she’s up to and vice versa.
Anyway we meet this lovely couple a few months ago and said we would all meet up again.
I went on fb today and out the blue the lady we met put up pics from that night out and said how wonderful it was to meet us both and are we both free new years eve for lunch as they are over in london.
My ex date replied saying this feels like a long time ago this night out and I replied yes I am free let’s catch up soon.
I hope the my ex doesn’t think I set this up or annoyed for me replying to our friend.
I just found it quite odd too. The mutual friend said she was going through phone and found pics. She doesn’t actuallu know we have split up
Nothing odd about it. She doesnt have to go tell everyone personally that she has broken up.
Dont overthink it right now. Understand she is also heartbroken right now and emotions are running high. One of you needs to stay calm and stop overthinking. I can only ask you to do that as of now.I don’t think she’s heart broken at all. She told me she can just be friends with no feelings there when we split up
@amcee she got back to me and said wants friends only nothing more…… what do I do now
Just say yea sure np and go NC indefinitely. Let her sort it out on her end. You cannot do much here.
If you do not want her as a friend go NC without informing. Do not be available to reply her all the time or be her savior. Both of you are young and the relation was for 5 months only when she decided to call it quits. If you keep obsessing over this, it’ll push her away further.Also, focus on getting yourself into activities which you like and help you concentrate better and improve yourself. Everyone loves an improved guy.
Good luck!
@amcee she’s actually 42 and I’m 32
She was so adiment that she only wants friends and nothing more
I said I wanted more and she said no just friends
But then continued to send me lots of emails how nice I was and nice memories etcThis changes a lot of things. She has been quite a few relations you mentioned and it could be that she is aware what she wants.
I would suggest just agree to being friends if you’re ok and go NC indefinite as it might ignite curiosity in her and will it attracts attention.That being said if you’re not improving yourself in the mean time then do not assume she is going to come back to you.
Good luck!
Its all gone very bad, I told her I love her and friends wont work with me it then get a bit heated and she said we have to stop contact, and said she doesn’t feel the same. so I have ruined anything now haven’t I?
@amcee now she has come back saying she wants to be friends, what do I do
You’re asking the same things which we have discussed on this thread @lou84
Please understand if you are not someone who can be happy by themselves then it doesnt inspire any confidence in the woman to try and get back to you.If you think your current behavior is attractive then continue that way or else please try to improve yourself, your personality!
Good luck!
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