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Hey everyone,
Ive been really conflicted lately.. I’m trying to stay positive but almost all my friends say they don’t think my ex will come back.. and when I ask why they say “well its been months and he hasn’t done anything” Is this a legitimate thing? I believe in no contact and that sometimes our exes need to miss us.. As time passes am I losing hope of ever getting him back? If they don’t come back immediately does that mean they wont ever come back?
Cant more time apart be beneficial in some cases?
I would love some opinions on this.. I need some support :/
I don’t think that is necessarily the case. All over the internet there are stories of exes coming back together after weeks, months and even years. It can happen. When you have a long relationship with someone you build an emotional bond. Falling in love with someone changes the neurons in our brain, and even after decades, meeting that person again causes those old neural pathways to fire up and the love kicks in all over again. It’s the way our bodies work. When in love we produce hormones, it becomes an addiction. And it’s very easy to open those paths to addiction again.
The key is to appreciate the time apart. You may be away from your love, but our journey is a long, everlasting one. Just because we are not with someone now, doesn’t mean we won’t reconnect with them in the future. You need to learn from your alone time. Learn how to become a better person, to become you, to give out everything you can offer the world. Each person should be in a place where they can live a happy and fulfilled life on your own.
Remember, everyone is on their own journey, and they walk their own path. Even if someone is not walking with you right now, doesn’t mean your paths won’t meet to walk together again.
I’ve been wondering the same thing, we’ve been broken up for 3 months and I feel like I have 2 months left to get us back together. I was depressed for awhile, for several reasons. I’m over my depression now, and I want to talk to him. I feel like it’s time to tell him that we need to talk…but I don’t know
Confused_girl, please read my above post. There should be no time limit on love, and there is certainly no time limit to working on ourselves. If you truly believe you are meant to be together, you don’t need to day it will be 1 month, 2 months or more. It will happen when it’s right. And if you have faith you can carry on enjoying your life, knowing they will be back when the time is perfect for you two to be together.
Always know you are beautiful, and you have so much to offer this earth.
That is the first good, and hopeful thing I’ve within the past week. I’ve had a terrible week last week, and this week started with getting in a wreck last night. That just gave me a little more hope. Even though, having hope doesn’t make it better, but having hope makes you want to try harder. Please tell me this made sense lol
Having hope makes you human, and humans are beautiful. We are literally the only beings with the power to change the world. And that is amazing. You need to learn to look at yourself as a beautiful human, a strong human, an amazing creator. If you put your mind to it, you can do anything. And that is true.
A few months ago, I was back to cutting, taking pills and hoping that my life would end, I was in despair. Until I realised that it was only me that thought these things about myself, it was only me that thought I wasnt strong enough. It’s all you….let it sink in..It’s all you. Your thoughts are yours and yours alone. Choose to change them. Now I CHOOSE to be happy every day. I have signed up.for a charity skydive, I give money and sit down with each homeless person I see, I’m off to south Africa to a wildlife rehab centre at the end of the year.
Life is amazing. You just need to open yourself up and see it. Please feel free to contact me and I will be there day by day. It takes a while, but eventually you will realise how truely amazing you are.
I mean I’m happy, I just wish I had him back…it just feels so hard and it’s confusing. I hear so many things I should do, and it confuses me more
@confused girl, I believe hope is a big part in getting your ex back. I feel the same as you do. There’s just this deep burning feeling inside that you know there’s something left even if they say there isn’t. Your ex telling you they moved on and all that stuff I believe is a way of them just trying to make you jealous because they truly haven’t. If you believe it’s meant to be and give it everything you have, that’s the only way you will find your answer.
@djd he told he was over me and didn’t love me anymore. But I knew he was just saying that. Because I meant literally everything and was the world to him. He truly loved me, and his actions said he still loved me. I can’t describe how we felt, but our love was so real, and I know it just can’t end like that. I do feel a deep connection still, but just a lot of obsticales to get back to it, it feels so hard
If it was true love it won’t end. And that’s the point. You are free now to concentrate on yourself. He loves you. You don’t need to worry about that. There is something that means you don’t feel whole without him, and that’s not fair to to either of you.
Imagine how you would feel if someone suddenly told you that their happiness depends on you. Imagine that responsibility?! Wow. I wouldn’t want that. I don’t know about you. Sometimes it’s hard enough to keep myself happy, let alone another person.
That’s what you’re doing, each time with your ex. Each time you contact them, or profess you are whole with them, you are saying “I don’t know how to be happy on my own, so I’m using you”. That’s unhealthy for you and them. Nobody wants to be responsible for another’s happiness, it’s a burden. Horrible, but true.
Can you imagine the rest of your life having to rely on someone else for your happiness ? I don’t know about you, but to me that doesn’t sound like much fun at all…
My ex has said the same thing… But she still got mad when I hang out with other girls, and made up a fake bf because she thought I was dating someone else. But i 100% agree with @relic. You create your own happiness not someone else. I’m in just as much confusion as you are with this because my relationship was the same. When I was with her she was the way with me that I am now about losing her. but you do need to focus on your self. But him saying that doesn’t mean anything. He’s just confused and is still trying to hurt you by saying that which means he’s not over the breakup like he claims to be
I hope that’s not how it made it sound. I was happy before, he made me happier. And once he was the only thing to make me happy when I was going through a rough time. But I’m out of that, actually am kinda happy. It’s just I still feel weird without him, I can’t describe it. I already feel kinda bad that I haven’t said I missed him once since the break up. I know deep down, somewhere he still loves me. But he just won’t say it
And yes, it really hurt when he said he said he over me, but I could feel that he wasn’t. He was in a rebound and thought she was so amazing and was crazy for her. But she led him on. I knew something wasn’t right with her from the start. I feel that if he’s still contacting me whenever he can, that he still has feelings for me. I don’t know, I have so much going through my mind right now
I agree with you..and i adore you being a positive person…
Godbless and let your positive thoughts inspire others too..
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