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Yeah people in his position won’t really say much, he is basically at the same place he was at before the relationship ended. You know that point when you feel someone becoming distant, most people ignore the signs because their feelings, but during that time you have a chance to change how they feel before it completely ends. So the no contact has kind of brought him back to the speaking and slightly distant but still has feelings there. “Thank You” with no smileys or just smileys, and short answers with no real excitement.

If he doesn’t reply (because it is possible) don’t sweat it, and don’t bring it up to him about how he didn’t reply and def don’t say sorry about being emotional or anything or saying that you miss him. If he doesn’t reply to you and you actually want to go to this concert still with him, you should wait until tomorrow. (Thats if you really want to go) if not then just don’t contact him for a few days or a week.

And no problem 🙂 I really appreciate the compliment and I enjoy helping others, I check my email frequent to give timely responses

Yeah he likely wouldn’t respond to a text like that because it gives off the image that you need him vs you just enjoy his company when you guys are around. You just have to re program him. If he is seeing someone else this process could take a lot longer to pull off, in which case the friend card is your best in. If he has feelings for you, they aren’t strong like you are expecting.

You are playing a game basically, where you have to take what signs he gives you and make the best judgement but remember no matter what signs (even sleeping with you) should be over analyzed and used as an excuse to speed the process. Saying you miss him etc would only remind him of the old relationship and your goal is to come off as a completely new person basically who is done with the old way. You really have to fight the urge for emotional statements and reactions to him because it is like breaking the no contact rule just not you will be breaking the no emotions rule. If he has to talk about his emotions right now before he feels them, it won’t really be special to him, it turns from emotions to logic. And you don’t want him making a “logical” reason to be with you when his emotions aren’t there because it won’t last.

Now I’m not saying getting together is a guarantee, but as much as it hurts you have to keep the momentum of positive friendly meetings and conversations and tell yourself every time you have the urge to talk about the past, or talk about your emotions and feelings for each that if you act on that, it will set you back. Could be weeks or months with the smallest act of emotion too soon.

He has some form of contact so I’m sure he doesn’t hate you, so just take your time, don’t contact him for a bit maybe for a few days after the weekend and start light conversation again and start building the positive friendship. Don’t get TOO friend zone though, you are just suppose to talk about regular stuff, if he comes off trying to talk about other women don’t reply. Not saying he will just in case

Offering to hangout really just depends on how the texting and calling goes. If you talk/text and talk about normal stuff or funny conversations, then that kind of brings him back down to the point he isn’t gonna be thinking so deep;y and free about you saying how much you missed him and stuff.

If the convo is going great, you can either drop it on him at the end of the conversation or at a high point when communication is going great. The other way is to end the conversation (but make sure you are the one ending the conversations before he is) because it is tempting to get excited and want to talk all day and night when you contact an ex again you have feelings for.

But yeah end the conversation first, on your terms. Nothing over sweet unless he is the one who starts it.

Reprograming him though is basically what you are doing, being friendly, hanging out a few times when you get the chance, and getting him used to/missing your company again. For every good experience you have, you don’t have to immediately talk about it after its over, and if you do, talk and then don’t talk to him the next day until late, so he has time to think about the good memories he just had.

I know this may sound complicated haha

but you can’t really think about his reasoning too much, just your actions and interactions with each other.Could be a lot of factors to him being “stand offish” he still is okay having you in his life to a certain level so you have to use whats handed right now