Struggling with NC

So Im on day 4 or 2 of NC depending upon how you want to look at it. Heres the small story. My girl and I decided to take a few steps backwards because she wanted to build a “Foundation of Friendship”. I understood what she meant, didn’t like it but went along with it. About a week ago I found her on Match. I called her out and she said a friend of hers made the profile for her (which I could actually see this person doing!, and the profile was bare bones). And that she wasnt looking to date “anyone” right now. We were cordial on Christmas day, talked about hanging out during the week and going snowboarding. On Christmas night I found out that she had a date with a guy this upcoming weekend. Things blew up, the guy knew me, told me and told her he didn’t like people who lied to their “friends they care about”. She blew up my phone with texts and called me. I didn’t answer or talk to her. She said it was all a miscommunication and that she was bored when she went back home for the holidays and was playing around (I kind of get the being bored part and playing around. Ive done it in the past). Then tried accusing me of not being “ok” with her having friends or “dating”. She texted me again on Monday and tried calling once before she went to Hawaii (which she didn’t tell me about). I broke NC on Tuesday morning only to not ignore her and just said “I realize Im still dealing with this and not ready to talk comfortably as a friend”. She has since not said a word to me.
Do I reach out again to try to discuss the “miscommunication”, and both of us tell our sides of the story? I take pride in being peoples friend and feel like this is something a friend does.
Or, do I say screw it and see if she reaches out to me?
I think my last text left it at a point where its on me. But you tell me.

Any words of wisdom are appreciated.