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So after me and my ex girl broke up we were still meeting up and I was helping her with things and then she starter getting colder and on 11th of November I called her and found out she had been seeing someone and wished her the best and didn’t contact her since. I have been getting over it (for those at the start of NC, time does heal you!) and thought screw it and shot her a text. I kept it casual, saying how I heard the new series of a show she likes is coming out soon and that I knew she loved it. She said “Hehe!! Thanks; so looking forward to it” not sure whether to interpret this as a cold text or what. Mind you I was sat somewhere the other day and she was speaking with someone near me and didn’t even look at me let alone say hi. So I was expecting her to not reply at all, even though it did take all day haha, not sure what to follow up with or how long to wait. Our relationship was for two and half years if that helps.
Well first off the part where you said she was near you and didn’t speak or look at you is understandable… my ex left me after 3 years and I’m currently doing no contact and if I was near her I probably wouldn’t say anything either due to it being awkward you know? As to her texting you back, I don’t think it was a cold message. Look number one rule after doing the NC (idk if you actually did it for 30 days or not?) But the number one rule is to get her to laugh, nd not make things awkward by talking about the past. So I’d take that as a good sign so far.. I’d continue to text, nothing to hard. Just some simple text messages and NOTHING about the past or getting back together. Sharing memories isn’t bad, but only if she has a positive response to it. If all this happens and she continues to text you, ask her to hang out.
Thanks for the reply! Not sure what to message her next, shall I just ask how it’s going or is that too boring? I did NC for 27 days, felt like enough time had passed so.
Any other thoughts please? I suppose if she really hated me she would ignore or just talk bluntly right? She still never replied to my text but then I got a short snapchat video of something she found funny, can’t see how she would have accidentally sent it to me, I replied with something and then got a snap of her just taking a pic of her laptop and assignments saying “hellooooo” and then id snap back something else which i consider to be funny and again she wouldn’t reply quick. She will open my snaps and reply with something unrelated hours later? I want to get a proper text convo going but not quite sure how to get it started, any ideas? Any reason she is replying but in that way? Like with the snap saying hello its like her wanting to initiate contact with me but then not replying?
We only broke up start of October, nothing serious just that she didn’t feel loved anymore, could it be that her new relationship honeymoon period is wearing off and she’s missing me but trying to have respect for her new bf and not committing completely? Surely any girl getting contacted by her ex would tell them to leave them be if they were happy with someone else?
I’d say if you found yourself in that position where you she was near you and pretending she didn’t see you, go up to her and say hi. Don’t be weird or like all awkward and whatnot. Pretend you saw a buddy of yours, or even their parents somewhere. You know, someone who you have a neutral connection with and you’re just saying hi. keep it short and be cool. It’ll show confidence. Even make up an agenda that you have to leave for, let her know that you’re still out there doing things with you’re life and being happy. Chicks dig that, everyone does. If you just sit there and pretend to not see the other person both of you will know that the other is still being weird about it. Show confidence and give her something to look up to 🙂
I think that’s some good advice although I don’t think there will really be an opportunity where I see her like that again. I had a quick check on her FB (I know I shouldn’t have!) and even though she was smiling in the pic with her new bf, I saw some of the comments between them and she didn’t seem overly interested lol. Could it be with her half effort texting with me is her trying to have respect for the guy? I’m not much of a texter so find it hard to get a convo flowing. I have a few ideas of things to say but any advice would be appreciated! When do I know to give up?
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