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I wouldnt keep my hopes up anyways guys. for all i know she could be mailing back te stuff i gave her lol
I dont think she is that kind of person haha.
I did ask if she wants to see the new flat tho
@Mj Looks like she’s willing to make an effort and write you back. Even if the letter would be just a formal letter, it’s good that she’s going to take her time and thinking to reply. I don’t think she’d mail your stuff back, that’s too mean xD
@ellie I understand what you’re saying, But it’s not like I’m pushing him into meeting me, I told him before that we don’t have to stay friends but he said that he’d want to. So if he’d contact me and tell me that he can’t meet up tomorrow, then I shouldn’t suggest another day? I’m afraid that if I wouldn’t do it then he won’t initiate at all.
@Mj I don’t think she would!! If she did she would be a really rude person..
@Oshi Trust me, I feel the same way at points. But if he keeps putting things off, then I would feel like I’m pushing him away. If you feel what you are doing is okay then keep doing it! I have your back 100%! I don’t know your ex and I dont know how things are going between you two as of right now, so I am just giving you the best input I can give!@ellie Thanks, I really appreciate your support, and you’re right about the things you say. I know the best thing would be if he initiates but I feel that I still have a chance here and afraid to distance myself again because it seems like he’s opened up a bit lately and I don’t want to lose this chance.
@Oshi, I have never understood more in my entire life. But let me ask you this, if I were you and saying this about MY ex, wouldn’t you say what I’m saying? Wouldn’t you tell me I’m over thinking? Wouldn’t you tell me that I won’t lose contact and this will just get his attention?
I am definitely not saying to not initiate hanging out, I am just saying that you also have to give him the chance to. I know it hurts and you’re anxious, but it is normal!!!
@ellie Hard to say. I can advice better for others but find myself not using my own advices xD I think at this point he won’t initiate anything, It seems like he’s softened up a little bit but I don’t think he’s ready to initiate. He didn’t contact me during the NC and it’s hard for me to see him starting now. He does answer straight away, and helping the conversation flowing, at the end of our meeting he called me a few times but because he wanted to make sure I’ve arrived, yet I believe he’s still passive, that’s why I want to get close to him again so he would open up and start initiating too.
I’m not going to contact him. If he’d initiate it then I’ll ask about the meeting, If I see he’s not interested then I’d stop contact with him.Hey @Mj feeling a bit better today thanks. Bit up and down at the moment. But think that’s all part of it. I have given up though… as in I am not hanging onto any hope of a reconciliation.
How are you?
I understand how you feel guys, we should move on and look forward but it’s not that easy. I don’t know myself what’s the best thing to do, but what I do know is that when you don’t love someone anymore then you don’t want anything to do with them, if they are willing to talk with us and maybe even meet up then that’s already good! we should hang onto it and stay positive. I’m feeling a bit depressed today myself, today is a holiday and everyone is going out, I was supposed to hang out with a friend, but she couldn’t meet up in th end. My ex sent me a happy holiday message so I suppose he can’t either.
I’ve messed up big time 🙁 🙁 I’m so angry at myself!!
I have been having the worst day. Emailed my ex, after talking myself out of it a million times. This is how the convo went (cringe)
Me: Hey. How are you? x
Him: Hi, I’m fine thanks. How are you getting on?
Me: Yeah I’m ok thanks. Do you fancy meeting up for a quick catch up soon? x
Him: Not really fancying it :p x
Me: No harm in quick coffee and a chat? x
Him: This could turn into an argument 🙂 x
Me: Oh, why? :/ sorry, I wasn’t starting an argument at all x
Him: I just don’t want to, that’s all. Nothing against you lol. I just, don’t want toAWFULLLLLL conversation. I didn’t reply to his last message. And he emailed me again saying “You’ve been ok tho yeh?”
Guys I know I messed up. I shouldn’t have emailed him let alone asked to see him! It’s been two months this weekend and I didn’t think I would be in this situation still. Harsh that he said he just doesn’t want to… do you think that’s what it is?
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