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Still tempted not to say anything honestly, I don’t know if that’s too cold though.
It’s Cold but I ignored texts too.
It’s up to you. If somebody told me that my ex was crying I’d find it very hard to resist.
Your situation is very different to mine. She is still very much in love with you.Unless you send something vague back. To give yourself time to think. Tell her you need space or something. Your call.
I’m feeling down this morning too. I know that she won’t make contact now till after the exams. So a few weeks of nothing will be tough.
Stick to your guns. More time to make things better. You’ve got this. You made the right move, don’t do anything you’ll regret.
She said to my friend that her heart is telling her one thing, and her head is telling her another. He also mentioned that she said ‘She thought we’d already broken up’, but I don’t know what to make of that. I don’t know if that means she’s unsure, or is wondering why I’m dragging it out. That bit makes me reluctant to reply. I don’t know if saying ‘I need space’ will make her angry.
Her heart means she is still in love. So happy days. Congrats.
Her head means that whatever caused her to end it hasn’t been erased yet from her mind. The ball is in your court. Don’t do anything stupid or rash.
Just take time to improve that little bit.A few weeks should do.
Thanks for your support. And I think she half wants me. I’ll have a few weeks now to do more for me. Then she won’t be able to resist
About the other cooler men Charlie. My ex’ new man is friendly with famous rappers and a band here. She went to concerts and private vip parties. How can I compete? Little old me? Because I love her and understand her. Because we ‘get’ each other. Because she loved my talks and easy of explaining things etc. Now she texts to meet up.
Put yourself in her shoes. Imagine you started hanging out with somebody who hung out with something cool that you like, I don’t know, footballers or something. And maybe you were kissing and having Sex with this girl. But you know that your feelings won’t just die for your ex. You know that. And it’s the same with her.
She won’t even go that far. They are not you. And she misses that.What do you do?
By the way, this will sound stupid, But I did some maths. Worked out a graph when I went nc. Made assumptions, big assumptions like we would be back together. But based on these assumptions I could predict how long this process would take and when to expect contact that meant something. So far, oddly, the graph is right. I expected something big on Thursday. I was disappointed the later it got. Then at 11pm all that happened. Isn’t that odd.
Thanks man, I hope that much is true. It certainly seems true in your case so maybe faith isn’t such a bad thing to have after all. Keep your cool.
Interesting that your maths are working for you, how unusual. I’m no mathematician haha.
She tried to call me right after she called my friend. I missed it. I wonder if I should just call her back. I haven’t made any moves yet, the panic is setting in again.
Call her. Text her and be vague, say sorry again for not being able to do today. Text her and apologise for missing the call, ask if she is ok?
Decisions, decisions, decisions.
Also, I’m sure the ‘new guy’ in your ex’s life is probably a massive prick, most people like that are. Only out for their own gain. He wouldn’t ever be here on this website.
Thanks. He was obviously working on her when I was still on the scene. He is a dick then so.
Something tells me that he is gone. I don’t know why. Maybe just hope. But I feel like I have a good chance. I’ll leave her alone until after the exams.
One other thing. Whether you believe in this or not. There is an old woman, a fortune teller, close to where I live. People swear by her. Anyway, I went to her at the start of the year. She said I would get her back. The ball is in my Court she said. I was with a friend and already so much has happened to the friend that she talked about that we never saw coming. I went to her years ago and she had everything spot on. Maybe stupid to listen to her. But that’s what she said
That’s crazy. I can’t say I’m a believer in that regard, but that’s really crazy that she predicted it. Maybe it’s just your will though, I always wonder if they just say what people want to hear. Maybe that’s just what someone needs though.
Do you think I should call her? Should I make contact? What would you do in my shoes?
I’m starting to feel like missing her call was another shame. She had just called my friend minutes before, and said how unsure she was. Maybe that call was her wanting different things.
I don’t know. Maybe send a text asking What’s up. It does sound like she is reconsidering.
It’s hard when you know it’s hurting her
Well, I went for it.
I just said “Hey, sorry I missed your call. Are you alright? Xxx”
I just hope I didn’t time it wrong. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells right now, and hope I didn’t send it while she’s angry about this morning.
Keep your head up. As you said to me, you can control your emotions. I just did some excercise, it helped temporarily. Do some push ups, do them until you can’t do anymore.
I have to admit, I feel like I’ve already made a mistake. Repeated the actions of last time, almost met up, didn’t, made contact, she brushed me off. I feel like it was all or nothing when she called this morning, as it was her making the contact. I think it’s key. I was just freaked she’d think about it and call it off anyway.
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