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Alright so here goes nothing. My boyfriend and I were together for 2+ years and he broke up with me on 8/17 because he “fell out of love” and wanted to be on his own for a while. We started dating when we were 16 and 17 and since he was going off to college (40 mins away) he wanted to be single. I was crushed. Completely heart broken and confused. I found out about NC about a week after we broke up. We talked 2 days after we broke up with clearer heads and that was it. I didn’t text him begging him to take me back or anything like that (even though I really wanted too). I stayed strong. I had a count down on my phone for when 30 days was up. It was really hard! I debated on contacting him on day 16 but I didnt. I tried to really focus on myself. I was eating healthy, going to the gym, and staying very busy with school and work. As time went on, i started to move on. I still thought about him every day but I was moving on. I wrote out the letter I was going to send him on day 30 and everything. But surprisingly enough on day 30 I didn’t even acknowledge it until my sister brought it up to me!! I decided then and there I wasn’t going to contact him and that our relationship was officially over. I went on with my life even though it was hard to totally move on. On 10/7 I texted his mom (who I was very close with) to wish her a happy birthday and her texts brought tears to me eyes. I missed her so much. And I came to realize that I really missed him and what we had. I knew if we got back together that it would never be the same though. That following week I received a message and it was from HIM. I was in shock!! I couldn’t answer for about 10 minutes because I was speechless. The whole conversation was basicslly catching up and how are you doing. But as the conversation began to die down…he sent a long message about how he made a big mistake and wants to work it out. I wasn’t so easy to jump back in. He hurt me and I cant forget that (even though I want too). We have had a few casual conversation over the past week and a half and since he’s coming home this weekend, we are meeting up for dinner TOMORROW. I am so nervous but excited. We’re going to talk about everything. If you follow the steps exactly, it should work. And the reason it’s suppose to “work” is because within those 30 days you’re suppose to become a better version of you and not want you ex back. If you wait those 30 days hung up on your ex, it’s not going to work. Show your ex you’re a happy, confident person without them. And they will really see what theyre missing. Since I started working out my ex/possible boyfriend can’t stop complimenting on how amazing I look. Follow the steps. Magic will happen!!!
woow u impressed me your so brave sissy 🙂
me i was doing that its my two days not responding to his message i know in my part i do my best for us..i make him feel love everyday..even him he admit im he best girlfirned he ever had…we just broke up bec. of financial issue and he is not financially stable so i don’t have a choice he want me to get me since we are in the long distance relationship..but im a bit scared cuz everytime i ignore his message i was thinking im pushing him away.. what do you think?
im so happy to you and your ex heeh..he realized you are worth fighting for and he admit his mistakes.
Thank you!! I would just tell him you need some time to think. I know Kevn says to just cut off all contact even if they are messaging you but I agree with you feeling that you are pushing him away in a sense. Good luck!!!
I think y’all are both headed in the right direction and that’s coming from a guy.. I personally was engaged for right at 5 years. Like a week ago she told me she needed space, needless to say I freak out begging and pleading “I can change” She gave me cold heartless reaponses which hurt extremely bad, then i found this Site and it has left me awestruck. I immediately stop texting and calling her and within one day she’s texting 10+ times. I have a few questions though, she is texting me things like -1-“I just give Us space so that you get your life together and become the man I fell in love with”–2–“i need to know if I ever need you will you be ther for me”. I need some insight on a response or to respond at all.. Ps I’ve only accomplished 6 days of NC
I would respond with “I need some space too. Time apart is probably best for us right now.” And end it there. NOW during this NC period you MUST focus 100% on you and become a better you. This way you can go back to being the man she fell in love with. Hope this helped! Good luck:)
Wow! I’m so impressed! I wish I had told him “I need some space” when he called/messaged me on day 12. Instead, I pretended to be happy and told him he did the right thing. And another ten days later I asked for my things back and had another conversation on text and via phone. Did I Fuck up my chances? How did you manage those thirty days? Did you not miss him and think about him?
Hmm I’m not really sure. I mean it was good you seemed totally fine without him but you shouldn’t of asked for your stuff back…Yes I missed him SO much and thought about him everyday but I felt that he broke up with me, he should be the one to contact me. I managed the 60+ days without him by keeping busy with myself! Good luck!!
As a guy, I know all guys have a confidence level for description purposes 1—10 1 being humble and 10 being cocky. The level of confidence a person has Is going to be a variable in every relationship but especially the recent broken up relationships because of the fact that most break ups aren’t mutual and when your partner couldnt seem to care less n has possibly forgotten every little memory Yall made together. That said if he’s like “” a -1 on The confidence chart she’d be more along the lines of thinking “oh no she’s moving in with another guy”on the flip side if he is like a 10 on the confidence chart then he’s more likely to think something such as: “”she’s just cAllin me to talk to me, using excuses like getting her stuff just to get a few more words in”” Remember this is all my point of view. I wouldn’t steer you wrong to the best of my knowledge but you should always take everything into consideration “YOU can NOT change THE way SOMEONE else THINKS, YOU can ONLY ( try ) TO understand WHY they THINK the WAY that THEY do” –wiseman–
What do Yall think about birthday presents, I do think she would like one but it’s only like a week into NC, and If I get something for her ill probably worse off than b4 huh ??
hi Sorry for bothering asking after break up my ex keep messaging me but now he didn’t send me any message t all mwhts the meaning of tht is he move on??
Whena,
I’m not really sure. Did you answer his messages? If you didn’t respond, then maybe that’s why he stopped. Depending on how long you were together, I don’t think he could move on that quick.
I BROKE NC rule..he send me message yesterday and talk about feelings we still love each other but our problem is we are in a long dstnce relationship..after are broke up nothing change he keep sending me message but i ignore him bec. im so hurt..but today i nver receive any morning greetings from him its start now :(..
i ask him about the girl he talking he says why so many question. and is there a possibilty yu like that girl, he say i dn’t know ok,stop fucking ask that question we r still talking thats all and i still love you ..
but i feel now his ignoring me..before if im not responding his getting mad..but today i know he is awake now..but nver recieve any :((((
its hurt
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