No contact for families with kids

Dear Kevin,

My husband initiated a divorce almost two months ago. I am still in love with him and we have a two year old together. We were so in love, but now he says he just don’t feel it anymore, which of course is heartbreaking. However, I am pretty good about it – we both are. He does all the right things, I am not ‘crazy’, but understanding and we have a great dialogue. Most importantly we have a two year old daughter we both love so much and it’s important to both of us, that we stay great friends, can hang out, do activities, eat dinner together all of us. – we agreed on that. He says he is still physically attracted to me, and he clearly likes to be around me, but the whole family thing is just too much or him.

Now, I have done my research, been all over the internet, bought Ryans book and a few more, but they often don’t work for me, cause a no contact period is just not an options, since I wouldn’t want to do that to our daughter and our friendship. To me it feels like we are in that (false) friendship phase. I feel that more time should pass before he would possibly be open to get back together, but I don’t know how to proceed. And is it so bad not to do the no contact phase. That is not an option for us. It’s not a game. It’s is our life.