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Well yesterday I posted about how I had this strange feeling that my ex wanted me to reach out to her.
I got two texts from her last night. Didn’t respond.
I feel better today though 😀
Hello Everyone,I’m on the 16th day.
Somehow a week ago I thought to myself “F*ck it” and tried to keep focused about my life and my own improvement.
Now I’m not counting days anymore. I’m going to contact her whenever I feel happy and cofindent enough. Now, the fact that she’s dating someone else is really making me go distant, it makes it “easy”. In fact, It’s like a “training” just in case we don’t get back together, so I won’t feel bad in the worst case escenario. So now my thought is “Don’t expect anything and focus on yourself, fool”
Still, there are good days and awful ones.
Wish me luck 🙂
Ruben
Ruben,
I like your adittude. I’m in the same boat it was killing me at first but like you said. Use it to your advantage to become stronger and prepare yourself to move on. It’s her loss. I don’t know about your situation but I’m sure my ex is in a rebound situation. I’m getting more confident as the days pass recovering from all this drama. If this doesn’t workout I’ll be happy with someone else but unlike my ex I’ll wait for a little bit so that I know it’s not rebound and also Like how you said about just waiting till you’re ready to contact her. Whatever happens happens and move on. We can do this!
Good luck to you
I ran into my exs mother today at panera… she is an amazing woman and i didnt want to be rude so i talked to her. Apparently my ex has talked about me to them. I guess it was about a current event topic that i commented on awhile ago. I hope so much that this is a good sign that there are really still feelings there.
I have blocked all social media all day and it’s going well. I’m always on my phone on these sites, it was hard at first but it’s doing me good. I feel great my confidence is coming back up I’m feeling great and it’s all becuase I’ve kept myself off of social media. There’s nothing I can do at the moment to stop my ex from seeing this other guy. So why hurt myself finding out everything that going on with them. I owe it to myself to make my self happy since no one else can. The day approaches when I deliver my letter. Getting ready for the day
Eveyone,
Am I foolish to think that my ex has forgotten about me? We broke up 2 months ago and after that we talked for one month. So it’s officially been one month with no contact. She is talking to someone already and I feel like she’s moving on. It honestly doesn’t hurt me as much as it did at first. But just cerious if she forgot I exists or maybe doesn’t feel anything for me anymore…just a thought
No, it’s not foolish. You two went through a lot and it’s normal. But you really need to think about yourself and your improvement. Now think about this, How were you before you two date? I mean back in the day, did you care if she was talking with someone else? Were you confident enough back then? I made those same questions to myself and guess what… it helps me. You need to let go those negative feelings and let the things flow naturally. It takes time. But it’s worthy. You need to be trully happy.
Buena suerte 🙂
Hey everyone,
Thanks for sharing open where you are all at. It is very encouraging.
I.A. – Kevin talks about how often we will start wondering if our Ex has forgotten about us and his answer is No. If you as a couple shared moments of bliss together for a period, then she will be thinking about you. It takes a lot longer then we think to move on. Outwardly she may appear to have forgotten about you and she may be chatting to other guys, but deep down there is still a piece of her heart that thinks about you.
Blocking social media was the best thing I did in helping improve myself. It took me a while and for a few weeks after I did that I was still getting urges every day to do a sneaky check to see what she was up too. I still get those urges but 9 times out 10 I can ignore it, every now and then I do succumb, but that is getting rarer and rarer now.
Ruben – Good on you man for not counting days, that’s a good place to be at especially as you know she is dating someone else. That’s something I haven’t had to deal with yet and I know that would be an incredible tough thing to cope with. AFAIK my ex after 3 months hasn’t been on a date but in saying that I haven’t had any contact with her. I have a friend who is still friends with my ex and he said he would let me know if he found out she was dating someone else. I not entirely sure how I will react when that happens. The more I focus on myself the easy it will be I think
Does anyone else get upset when all you hear everywhere else is “move on” because its not worth it. And that taking a break is code for i just dont want to man up and break up.. or hes just stringing me arond. It hurts so much. Im already afraid of that and worried. Has anyone else had a break like this work ?
Hi Marie, (I came here by accident as I was checking my good friend Steve’s forum)
Anyway, yes people tend to have a lot of opinions about other relationships and situations so it’s up to you whether you want to listen or not. I’m not saying ignore their opinions because it might be valid but that depends on how well you know yourself, and how much life experience you have. The only way for you to know whether to move on or not is to follow Kevin’s plan and do NC. During NC think about your relationship with him and what went wrong and whether it’s all worth it for you. I read that you get along with him mum and that he was talking about you so that’s great! Follow the plan and you will reattract him if that’s what you want after NC. But for now concentrate on yourself and listen to your mind (first) then your heart. Good luck
Marie,
Not to long ago I was talking to someone that came back to let the form know that he and his ex got back together after NC. I quickly asked him for advice. His words were of great encouragement. His comment is still saved on on this thread if you’d like to old watch for it. His name was Edward and posted this in August 5th
Thank you all…. hopefully soon enough ill be able to five advice instead of asking for it. Its incredibly hard to do this when every cell in my body is literally in pain from being away from him. There was so much good but i was so clingy and had so many trust issues. I hope to god that im right in how i feel that he is the one. And he remembers what he told me. That we travel well and are a good team and have a lot of fun that this really isent goodbye. That the good things we have are enough to restart and that hes still in love with me. This past week. Ive worked on being more positive and strong. Ive gone out and even have a job interview thursday. But i find myself still wanting to share everything with him and to talk to him. I still FEEL him and i wonder if that went away for him after almost 2 months of this break.
Hey all,
I’m sitting here after my first week of NC and almost 2 months separated. I’m not sure what to say about how I feel. I seem to switch between feeling a few different things. A lot of the time I feel numb to everything, like what happened doesn’t hit me the same way that it did. Sometimes I feel the same hurt that I did at the very beginning. Sometimes it’s regret, wishing that I hadn’t allowed myself to get into the relationship at all. I’ve also started to sometimes feel ok with it ending! I still get frequent urges to contact him but then I think of how he’s with someone else and how she tried to disrupt things between us when we were together and the urge fades(slowly) away. I’ve also been very good with not looking for him on social media. Permanent NC hasn’t been easy.. when it’s bad it hurts in ways I feel like I can’t deal with! Thankfully I can already look back and see that forgiving him wouldn’t be healthy for me because of all of the broken trust. The rational part of my brain gets it, I’m hoping the heart won’t be slow to follow. Now it’s just sticking with that knowledge and not breaking NC. Time to really concentrate on improving myself for myself!Hey guys,
About to go on a date wish me luck. Hopefully this can get my mind off my ex. Gain confidence as well
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