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Thank you so much for your advice. Im so appreciate it. Im sorry because i dont understand what guys think. My ex bf like to hide his feelings even he had problems he stayed silence. Im not sure how is he now. Im so deeply think how is he and really want to see him but since he doesnt even find me till now, so i try my best to focus on myself and well, like u said i cant think he doesnt care about me and maybe he think when he’s alone but then… Why he doesnt want to take any chance to text me?
Hurm i try yah. I try. Its good tho u be able to see her and text her. I wish i can do that to him. Hows ur situation right now with her? Is she still cold? Or warm?
Like you said he is just like my ex both of them hide their feelings, he is probably very stubborn.
My situation is hard to read to be honnest, she is warm in her texts like its always positive now. The problem is that she was never the person to move quick in a relationship and she says she cant live without him. This guy is her whole life right now because she is hurt for many reasons but not only me if its a reason haha i dont know. She quit her job, fails french which she was very good at, she hides her bf from me, she also shows her emotions on ask.fm which she never shows like its rare that she would send me sweet texts because she is shy and i see her talking about how important this guy is to her.
She responds quick to my messages and seems exited about going for a hot chocolate. All im wondering is what should i do, should i try seduce her by touching her or no touching? Like im afraid to do the wrong move and also she has a bf and i feel bad a little if ever im the cause of their break uo if ever it happens.
Her sister even told one of my good friends that i was the best guy my ex could of gotten and that she is making a bunch of bad decisions now a days
My ex is lost right now, and im very dissapointed in her actions towards me i just dont know how to handle it i want her to confess and explain but i’ll wait to know if i have a shot or not then i’ll ask when its the right time.
Oh my. She is very confused with her own feelings. But at least she gave u a very good respond. Maybe she is lost, confused and a bit stubborn i think, she cant decide or even know what she felt now. But at least… I can see that u do have a chance. Because she gave u warm respond. There is excitement from her and she gave u a space to meet her. U do have chance. Its better for u to create false friendship. Touching or not touching depends on situation. Dont give the flirt gesture. Give the comfortable gesture.
Mine is a bit difficult than urs. He seems very happy with her. He is not lost i think. He seems pretty well with his life without me. I do believe he still keep tagging her in any good videos. I dont know what to feel. Devastated. Hurt. Of course. Sometimes i feel like i dont have any chance because there is no respond from him till now. All i see is he has perfect moment after broke up with me because of her. Its unfair. Totally unfair. He moved so fast. Sometimes i dont feel its a rebound. Maybe honeymoon stage but he seems very comfortable with her.
They could seem very comfortable but in the end he was still in a 8 month relationship with you, trust you are not out of his mind. He might not want to talk because he has negative feelings towards you because of the neediness but in time he probably will contact you.
He will obviously have fun with the new girl because she takes his mind of you and the break up but when he is alone he probably feels alone and thinks about what happened.
“Let time do its job” as they say, i personally hate this quote but in the end for this particular situation it comes out to be true. Time will show him what he lost and he might contact you, he still remembers you and thinks of you for sure.
Dont give up, i feel like giving up as well from time to time but im going with the flow and trying to make things better either with or without her.
I know i was needy and clingy before. But that was before. Right now i dont. I dont become needy or attack him for having new gf without telling me. I dont even update my status or pity party in social site. I just remain silence and try my best to keep myself busy. To be honest, i hate go to bed because i will feel alone. He used to text me till i sleep and right now, none. I miss him ao much. From close, mutual and love person to a stranger.
Well, i hope he will think of me or even miss me. Why he so cold and so fast to move on? Like seriously. Im justr not sure when there is time that he feel alone. He always text with her i believe. Of course she knows his schedule more than i am now. 🙁 she might be text with him till he fell asleep. Sigh. I hate this thinking tho.
Yes im not giving up. Im not. At all. Even tho i feel like i dont have any hope because he has her, he doesnt contact me at all and they seems very happy but i want to give a try. Maybe…well…we never know right now. I hope he wont easily forget about me i mean…sigh.
I know exactly how u feel. But look at u. U r so strong. Well u have done the nc, u got nice respond from her and excitement. Even tho she has someone else but obviously she cant get over u at all. She said that she dont want to lose her new bf. Maybe she dont want to get alone. But i can see that u do have chance. Just dont know when. Just keep excitement and insert new things on ur convo. Become friendly but mot too much. Be there for her and support her when she needs. Women more sensitive
I have to make her make comfortable because she dosent want to open up to me yet.i also believe i have a shot but its fragile.
As for me being strong well i am better but not so much i just got over the pain and got to grow because of classes i had this semester which helped me control my emotions and understanding situations from different aspects.
I took my time to get better NC helped me alot and so did my 2 real good buddies who understood me and supported me. Just know that there is someone out there that is thinking of you and wish he was by your side! You know why? Because just like everyone you have an amazing personality so keep your head up high you can do this
See it this way 42 days ago i was in your shoes! And now you perceive me as strong so do most of my friends why because i worked on myself and believed in myself thats what you must do
1. Find someone who you can confess too and get support
2. Find what you can change in yourself and do it
3. Love yourself again
4. Do things you love
5. Enjoy life
After NC contact him and see whats up !
Wow thats very very amazing what u said. Very wise. Thank you sooo much!
Well, i dont have much friends that can really really understand me. All they said like forget this guy! Find another guy! Sigh. They even talked bout their bfs when we hang out. So sad
I try to do things that i never do. Like going to spa, gym or jogging, being active in my uni activities. I want to keep my mind not to think about him. Its tough very tough but thats the only way i can do right now. It has been 10 days and no respond at all from him.
Yah i do hope he will reply after my nc. I dont know why im so nervous
Its because you love him
I feel the same, my heart races when i text her i am over joyed every time haha.
But stop worying about him not contacting you, your worying yourself for nothing and its nkt doing you any good!
How am i supposed not to worry about it? Right now he is very happy, thag girl stole his heart, his sadness and turn to a lot of joy which thats why i think he said “this is just perfect”. She took his mind and make him forget about me and doesnt care bout me because he has her maybe 🙁
Its totally unfair he moved on so fast and happy while im not. Sometimes i felt like they having feeling each other for long time but why he didnt want to tell me and stayed with me for 8 months? Sigh. I dont what am i thinking
Yes i do love him so much and i want him back. I deserve a second chance. I nver lie to him or cheat. Its just insecurity question that created a fight and he doesnt want to fight with me anymore and his feelung totally empty. So mean 🙁
We are thinking a like you and i. He did move on quick but he is only running from the pain which will eventualy come to him.
Right now he is in a fairytale but trust be when i say life will soon beat him to his knees and he will see reality thats when he will see that it was a mistake and start having all those feelings he just stock up inside him.
The thought of them being together and all insecurities to how it happened and what happend when we were with our exes is gut renching i know. Trust me i think of her everyday! For 2 weeks i cried everyday, i lost 15 pounds (which i chose not to gain back i just got cut instead ).
Its a hard time for sure and these questions will follow you threw this whole situation and will probably follow you when you’ll be with him as well.
See it this way the pain of breaking up with you left him lonely, sad, mad and depressed. She was there to support him. Then he was getting comfortable and they started doing things it wasnt their intentions but it happened because of the intimate feeling they were sharing. Then they started seeing each other to the date each other. Now they believe they are in love but everything in their relationship is moving quickly just so he can reach the level of intimacy he was sharing with you! Some day he will see that its not as “GREAT!” As they envisioned it to be and most likely will break up.
Read this page https://exbackpermanently.com/is-your-ex-in-a-rebound-relationship/
Just know you have a chance! Everyone does no matter what the situation is as long as they have will and work hard
Thank u so much! Its a very good advice and support from u! Your positive thoughts about them and patient are really amazed me. Thank you so much. I cant even think like u to be honest.
Yah i read the article before but he said the more serious they are in relationship, the more less lukely my chance to get him. And im confused whether he is rebound or really moved on because she is his bestfriend for 3 years. Not someone new. She knows his flaws and of course he knows her well. But i just hope i have a chance to get close with him once again n make him fall in live with me and care about me. Aigh. What a great dream. Hows your situation today?
I did not speak to her, im feeling a little stress to the fact that she might be serious but i believe its not gonna last. Even if it is serious i have a shot but ya im thinking of her alot
how about you?
At least u tried and she gave you good respond tho. U have a shot. Its really great.
Ermm its been 10 days of NC. Havent received any news from him. I shut down my fb and twitter. Because it hurts to see their sweetness in public. Plus, i put away ny phone because it hurts to know that he doesnt contact me at all.
Im not sure about this.
Not sure about what?
Nc things and a chance to be close with him after NC since he has her. I really hope its rebound. Like u said, ur ex might be serious. Same like my ex. They look serious tho.
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