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We live like 10-13km (8-10 miles) or so apart now, and yes, guessing comes from not knowing. As for the fwb stuff, when she asked if I had anything, because some friends of her heard that I’m talking with someone on FB(!?), she shared with me that she has something so that I don’t hear it from anyone else. The guy she’s seeing is someone that came in the pic just after we broke up, like 2 weeks after it they were having coffee (while I was still moving my stuff out, we met, and I could read from her expression that something has changed).
But from what I’ve heard from the neighbors back there (I’m on good terms with them, and they like me as well, I’m playing badminton with one, and another I have semi-regular lunches), the guy is not really showing up at her place that often. But I’m guessing again about this as well.
Will see, hope the mail companies don’t mess up the deliveryWell the ship has sailed I guess.
I sent the letter from abroad on a trip to one of my friends. Between the sending and the receiving a long one-and-a-half week passed, and before she got the letter we bumped into each other on a chill acoustic concert venue. It was totally random, I was going home from work and had a thought of going to that place, which is way out of her usual locations, so I had no idea she will be there. I was standing in line for the bar when I noticed her, and as it was quite a long one, I invited her to join me. She was with the girl friend who I was talking about earlier. We sat down and talked a bit about usual stuff, so nothing deep, especially since the friend was there as well, but I guess if it was just the two of us, it wouldn’t have mattered. End of concert, we head to the subway, kiss on the cheeks and took different directions.
Next day I got a FB message that she received the letter and it is nice from me that I wrote.
So I stopped contacting her ever since. My plan was that if that letter can do anything, bring out any kind of reaction, I’ll follow up, but this nothing that she sent me made me realize that I gave what I could, and I don’t want to seem any more desperate.
Interesting enough, since then I started posting on Instagram in stories, and firstly, the girl friend checked me out, even though she doesn’t follow me, and after that my ex did check 2 or 3 of my stories as well.
Will see how my life plays out from this point. I generally feel great, but there are some days when I just can’t think of anything else that how did I get here, and how am I gonna reach what I want (let it be a family or just having my own apartment), and that I feel f’in lonely.Can’t edit, sorry for double posting.
Since then, I’ve dated some girls, been on festivals, used Tinder, but nothing seems like the one I’m looking for. Or if I find someone that I can have long term thoughts as well, she doesn’t even match up 😀 and I’m a good looking guy, talked to colleagues and girl friends, and they genuinely think I’m a pretty good catch 😀 (no, I won’t go for colleagues and the friends are friends for a reason)Do you still live at your parents place? Are they still abroad? For vacation or what?
Yes, I still do. They are working abroad, and they are not really planning to come back in the near future (only for holidays), but I guess they want the place as a safety net. Otherwise if I were them, the house would be long gone, and the money would be in other assets that generate income not take away as it constantly needs investing in it (as any property to be maintained). I have been eyeballing with renting a place, but the rental prices are way too high for a single bloke IMHO, even though I’m not earning bad money. There are stats made by the gov and I get paid more than double of the average income, but a renewed, furnitured place in the centre would go around 30-40% of that income, which is ridiculous. If I had an SO to share the rental with, that would obviously go down to 15-20%, which would be fine. And if I couldn’t move close to the centre then whats the point of moving anyway.
So I’m kind of stuck in this situation.I guess your job is near city centre. Another possibility is that you could get a male roommate.
I don’t want to be in that situation to be honest, I had the idea of that already.
A usual quick update: I was at a client and decided to go out for lunch with colleagues. Sitting at the table someone says hi to me. It was her. 1 minute quick talk why are we at the same place (she had some meeting to the office building next to my client’s) and then we sat apart. Two days later she checks in with me whether a beach towel is mine or not. I did not confirm it being mine but she said she will hand them over some day… aaand she went for an adventure trip (ziplining etc.) I was trying to plan for last summerTurns out she went there with the guy she’s now with from work. So I don’t what is she doing or what she wants as I had left some gadgets, steam machine etc. deliberately there as I couldn’t use them, why a freaking towel would trigger this… I haven’t contacted her since she replied to my mail the way she did.
I don’t really want to end up in a friendzone, but on the other hand I don’t know what would hurt more, ever seeing her again or never seeing her again.My 2 cents is.. if you are wondering whether you will hurt more, seeing her again or never seeing her again, then it will hurt more to see her again. At some point you won’t need to ask yourself that question. That’s the point it won’t hurt to see her again.
The amount of time is totally variable and depends on the person and relationship. It can take years to get to that point. But you will know when you are.
Long time no see here but things -not particularly good things though- happened. She contacted me in sept. with things related to the apartment we were living in (how this and that was arranged etc.) when I was about to go on a business trip and she seemed excited on where I’ll be going. In the hotel the amenities provided were from one of her favorites lol. Came back, a week later she called me that her grandfather passed away, and she wanted to let me know. Then she asked if I could cheer her up, talk about something positive and we did. Few weeks after I saw she attended a wedding together with his BF (so it’s now serious). In the meantime her father contacted me with the computer I gave him and I couldn’t fix it remotely so I went to her parents. I talked with her mom for a long time we are on good terms and she needed some distraction from her loss. She gave the stuff she wanted to return to me to her mom so I got them that way. That was in early november. Haven’t heard anything from them since.
Meanwhile I have tried dating but nothing came out of it. Maybe its me maybe I chose poorly but still noone to connect to which is what I mostly miss.
@robertv What does this mean?”Few weeks after I saw she attended a wedding together with his BF (so it’s now serious).”
Is she still dating her co-worker?
Did you find your own apartment?
Don’t give up on dating. It takes time to find someone special..
Yes she is but I don’t see that much FB activity of her (thankfully?). Apt wise I’m/we’re still trying to figure out how to get the best out of the situation. I don’t want to live in the subs but neither want to fuck up their plans if they have any but that is a whole another story… I don’t want to give up you know it just gets exhausting telling all these people what/who exactly am I 😄
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