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My ex has been dating her best friend for 4 months now, im just wondering if i should still think i have a chance? I know she still cares but i dont know if she will come back..
i think no one answered because its really hard to tell. at this point i think only she really knows whats going on, and maybe she doesn’t even realize whether or not she still has feelings for u. as much as it sucks this sounds like a waiting game
Similar to you my ex told me many times how lucky she felt to be with me, after sex she would brag to people on how good it was and on how badly she was amazed that it could be sooooo goooddd she would even text her best friend right after saying that it was insane how good it felt and that she never thought it could be so great! My ex and I dated for 8 months, we were very close and very in love, the main cause of the break uo is because she was going to prom with her guy bestfriend which got me jealous.. she is now dating this guy, she left because on the last month according to her we argued alot and i was being jealous althought before we started dating she had an eye on me for 2 years! Its been 5 months that we are broken up and its been 4 months she has been dating her bestfriend.. im really sad and still madly in love with her i want her back and i hope she comes back but i tried everything! The letter, 30 days NC (she contacted me on the last week with a stupid excuse), i worked on myself people are congradulating me on my improvements, tried contacting she was hot and cold gave me every possible sing she could still be in love and this all threw out the months but slowly started decreasing now its like silent treatment.. people who are close to her tell me she made a mistake others even say that she isnt as happy sexualy with him as she was with me and even that he isnt her type which is what she use to say as well.. she still shows me she cares threw my mom and my friends hoping that im guetting better and what not saying that im a good guy, mature, know where im going in life.. she is 17 and i 19 both athletic got the same life goals and values! She went to breakfest with my mom 2 times since and she had tears both times.. she is the type to be friends with her exes and she isnt with me which is odd.. i love her and i want her back!!! Do i have a chance id like to believe so!?
i think you have a shot here dude. Not just saying that because I’m trying to be supportive, but really. If she’s doing weird stuff about you like crying about your relationship still, even when she’s with another guy. But i think she’s gonna take a while. Your situation sounds kinda similar to mine (minus the whole dating another person thing). Thing is i think with both our situations we both just gotta be positive and confident with them so they realize what they’re missing out on. She clearly has a high opinion of you, and she is definitely showing signs of having feelings for you.. meaning this new guy sounds like a rebound. If she is with him but not satisfied, it sounds like she’s with him because she doesn’t wanna face her feelings. But eventually she will, and it sounds like eventually she might even make the effort to be with you! mine sounds very similar too so i think this is good for you! but the waiting may be tough… now like me, you have to try and move on because it could even be years before she realizes how special you are to her and how she wants you back.. until then you make yourself better, and show her what she’s missing! but let her come to the decision that she wants you back 🙂
I smell a rebound with the new guy. Speaking as the rebound guy for one of my best female friends, the biggest reason we dated? Hey I’m bored and lonely, you are two, can’t think of a reason why not? The reason we ended? Well we were friends for years and neither of us are the others 1st choice, so it wouldn’t last. Rebounds are the bandaid for heartache, for me it luckily helped me get past the heartache but almost every time it ends with them feeling worse and missing you. In that sense that’s what happened to some level, I lost the lonely sad feelings but got to look at my ex in a more positive light. She clearly still likes you so she is halfway there, once the new guy and her end she will most likely realize what she is missing out on. 4 months isn’t as long as you’d think, stay strong and patient but as it is always said don’t put your life on hold for her or anyone else.
@phonis and @atedeshi93 thanks a bunch guys! It is getting hard and i keep on improving everyday! Sometimes its just hard to believe that i still have a shot because you start overthinking.. but i did get over the break up i just still love my ex very very much!
@ Samuel
It does sound like a rebound to me. Even though it has been 4 months, I still think she is trying to fill the hole of not having you in her life. The only way she can do that is by filling it with someone else. Often when people break up, straight away they try and find someone to hang out with, someone to talk to, whether that be friends, family or company of the opposite sex. She will realise that this friend isn’t what she wants and will understand why she is doing it.
Unfortunately, I believe you do need to wait. You need to do NC and get yourself in a great stage in your life, so when she does realise this, you will wow her with the new you!
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