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    jennifer22
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    Hey and to anyone reading this, i would really like some advice from someone. My ex broke up with me about 2weeks ago. I had done all the begging n pleading, which was very degrading for me, to get him back. Initially he had told me he felt nothing for me and didnt love me anymore. He said my jealously made him not interested in me anymore. We were together for almost 2years. hes 28 and im 26 years old. We also had a baby boy who unfortunately passed away on june 28th. We lived together n with the breakup he took everything and left.

    Apart of me knowing that i made a mistake with always being jealous, i no he was faithful at the end. I regret some of my actions n all i want is him back. I stopped texing n calling him for a whole week n in that week he called 3times. Litterally jus to talk. Convos were short.

    I called him after a week because i found out he started to talk to a girl he dated way before me. He still denies it. So i sent him a tex stating the i will no longer take his bs and i was gunna start moving on and to consider me dead from this point. I actually felt good after i said that. He immediately calls me back explaining to me i shouldnt be acting like that he was jus busy and he wad going to call me back. I didnt continue the conversation and i hung up. The next day i said to myself that i jus wasnt going to let him control my emotions and went out and kept busy that day as i new i probably really caused him to probably never call me. BUT he did. He called at 1am which i didnt expect as it was literally the day after i had sent him the text. He started saying that he was sorry for treating me the way he has after the breakup, that he doesnt want to be enemies with me. That i wasnt jus a girl and he doesnt want me to hate him. That what we had was special. He even included to say that i needed to understand that men and women are different and men will hide it instead of showing it. I let him talk n he said he cares me still. That hes said things he doesnt really mean. And hes sorry. Even though hes said this he doesnt want to get back together. Well for the most part is wat hes still sticking too. He has now fully confused me. Hes hot then cold. My question is the more time passes he seems to be opening up. But i havent done the no contact to its entirety. Should i be ignoring him completely for 3to4 weeks as told? Or should i continue answering his calls. Wen i dont call he calls immediately within 2 days tops. He also added that its been hard for him. Im jus taking it day by day n working on myself n again im not initiating the contact. I need some advice. I feel like he may still love me but is scared that nothing will change if we get back. He still stands on this breakup being official but then keeps contacting me trying to say his feelings but then holds back a bit. If anyone can give me thier point of view i would trully appreciate it. How should i proceed with him.?????? Today i texed him saying he shouldnt call me for me now n he replied immediately saying i deserve the best n thats why he appologized yesterday over the phone but i never replied back. Ughhh please advice!!!!!

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    a.z
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    hey,
    its ok,don’t worry.text him and say that you have been thinking and you have accepted the breakup and you are also sorry if you ever acted wrong and wish him the best.then apply NC for 30 days.
    don’t ever stalk him during NC.you should feel totally happy and confident again to reattract him.the most important thing is to make yourself feel good and no one can do that except you.make positive changes in your life.follow the plan and when you meet him again,you should let him see the change. the only thing you should do for now,is to focus on your own life and feel happy. after the 30 days,there are lots of things you can do to reattract him and all of us will be here to help you.
    sign up to kevin’s email series,it will help you alot during NC and forever.

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    jennifer22
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    Thank you a.z. For the advice. I greatly appreciate it.

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