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Been apart for 3 months after 3 years together. She ended it because I took her for granted and stopped trying in the relationship. A month of no contact and she reached out saying she misses me a lot and still cares. She also said she does not feel like she made the right decision because as time goes on she really misses me.
We had a phone call Conversation laying out all the flaws and the way I took her for granted and hurt her. This lead to me reaching out in text and we texted back and fourth until she stopped replying. 2 days after she initiated contact and was curious about my day and she even sent a picture of her new hair to me.
2 days again later she initiates again and we have friendly banter and even teasing about doing my college homework. This ended with her saying “yea it’s probably best if you do it lol” I replied “yea, I got this” and she replied “I’m sure you do!” Well I did not reply and that was our last contact. It has been a week exactly.
I’m left to anticipate any meaning through these conversations and her doubting her choice at one point about 3 weeks ago. I know it could be nothing but after the phone call she added me back on Snapchat and within this last week she posted a story with a screenshot of the song “pinch me” by bare naked ladies. The caption said “the feels ”. After I viewed it, she took it down. It wasn’t even up for 20 minutes.
Are these signs she is looking for me to initiate and show I still care? Do I wait for her to initiate again? Start NC? Reach out asking how she is? I’m so lost right now and my ultimate goal is to get her back slowly and start something new with the girl I still love.
Please help. I don’t believe it’s all over. I think we are in a power struggle. What do I do now?
@Cchance11 – In your other post you wrote:” I took her for granted and got complacent .. Sometimes I talked condescending to her and just chose what I wanted to do over her suggestions”.
She has reached out to you several times. This is NOT a power struggle! It’s obvious to me that she still cares about you and I would think you told her you still care for her too during the phone call or in the texts. Anyway, you have to show her that you care by NOT being complacent again! You have to be more pro active and initiate a phone call or two. Maybe ask to take her out somewhere for a meal or ask if she would like to go somewhere to have fun. If you fall back into the pattern of being complacent and talking condescending to her, you will have NO chance to get her back.
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