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You won’t get an answer and in reality she doesn’t owe you one! She has ended the relationship, take that as it is over! Stop trying to get answers to your questions, this is one of the biggest points of getting in touch with your ex after no contact, anything you wanna know, DONT ASK, now is not the time and in reality when the time is right you won’t even care what the answers are because you’ll have her trust back and you’ll be working through things successfully!
In terms of moving on.. It’s not about finding someone else it’s about being happy with yourself and getting to the point where you know you will be okay without her! That is why your struggling with new relationships, because your still hanging onto every word she says!
I know it’s frustrating when you love someone and your desperate for answers and to hold them and kiss them and them to make everything okay! Im there myself with someone I thought was madly in love with me for the last 6 years!! But you need to have some self control and give your ex the time she needs, if she needs it! It may be over, you have to accept that! There is nothing wrong with a little bit of hope but do not let it consume you and your actions! You’ll regret it!I am doing my best to let go but when i do something happens to keep her in my mind either she texts me, either i find clothes that belong to her, either a friend of mine speaks of her or even i hear songs that talk about how i felt with her and weird part is they randomly play when i listen to the radio alone but usualy i listen to my music so there is no flashback!
I understand that in my situation you would give up but i never do! And even if it takes 2 years itll take the time it needs! Im planning on doing another 2 month NC to work on myself and then try to become friends with my ex again!
I’m also considering a rebound relationship! Because i’ll be honnest i see my ex as being the one just that when we broke up she wasnt thinking clearly and was going threw tough times with her family!
Don’t think about a ‘rebound’ relationship.. that is so hurtful because it means you are intentionally going into a relationship with someone else with no intention of being true to them, and in the end you could end up hurting them the way your ex has hurt you and that is plain cruel. Fair enough, meet up other people and enter into other relationships IF YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR THAT PERSON, not just to get over your ex.
If you choose never to give up you are only going to hold yourself back. You have to accept that you may not get what you want. Until you do that, noone can help you as you will not listen to advice..
We all have things that remind us, its natural, you are not different to any other person going through a break up! She will never come back if you wallow in the past.. You need to pull yourself together and look towards the future.All i’m trying to do is get an answer cuz im the kind of person that always needs to understand or else i question myself on the subject for days on end… and yes your right it would be cruel of me to get a rebound but your are wrong about me not listening to advice! Since no one is giving me any.. all they say is let go or you have a shot they dont give me plans on how to proceed.. like i really am getting better there is only one place where i let my emotions flo freely and its here and its a bitch that i cant do it anymore since apparently thats not considered as moving on.. i made this post to be able to get help for me since 80% of my posts were to help others!
I go to the gym 5 times a week for 2 hours sessions! I play hockey in 2 different teams about to go for 3 soon! I’m getting straight 80% in college! Im sleeping more, eating better seeing my friends more meeting new women and people! I am doing better and moving forward..
At the end of the day i think of my ex because she is the only one i want to go back to bed with i never felt so good with anyone else before and its the reason why she is the only one i dated and presented to my family and friends!
So i come here to be able to win back the one i love and give it a 2nd chance!
@pineappleblue another thing! Her and i cried at the brake uo and she cried alot in the following weeks! I am the only one she cried for, she said i was the best bf she ever had so i’ll always have a shot i just need to give us a big break and then try to enter contact again some day!
look @samuel, I’m not telling you to give up on her or that you have no chance of winning her back! You asked for my advice, I give you it..
You need to accept that she might not come back – this is one of the vital parts of Kevin’s stages not me being a dragon and trying to make out like you don’t have a chance!
And you are not the only one who feels that their ex is the most important person in your life, we are all going through it and can only give you an insight into our experiences!
Well done for improving yourself.. It is another vital part and it seems you’ve got that covered!
I don’t really know what else to say to you because you feel we’re not giving you advice.. But I cannot tell you what you want to hear so what’s the point!
I’m sorry if this seems like a defeatist attitude but I have had an awful day and believe it or not, am having a pretty crappy time of it myself, so if you feel my advice isn’t advice then there’s nothing more I can give! Good luck with everything! I hope it works out for you 🙂 x@pineappleblue really sorry of how i react i just cant control my shit when it comes to this.. but if you want post your problems here and i’ll help! I always support and give the best advice i can to improve others situation i’ve been helping another person and almost got her back with her ex shes almost there and i’d be glad to help you out since you helped me!
She cried the 2 times she met my mom(once right after the brake up and another time during christmast brake), she also met with a friend of mine last month and 2 weeks ago..
on the first meet up a girl that was with them said “i dont understand women who dump their bf because of arguments” (reason why she left me) my ex’s face went blank and the 2nd meet up was to talk about me because she was mad at me since she thought i was trying to brake up her new relationship, she cried during this meet up..
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